Earlier this year my friend had a TFMR. She didn't tell me ntil afterwards, her choice obviously. She's also got a long term health condition which has prevented her from trying again yet due to a flare up. She's desperate to have another child.
I am pregnant. It was unplanned (contraception failure) and I was petty vocal about being one and done.
I messaged her yesterday and told her I was pregnant. I acknowledged that it would be upsetting for her and didn't tell her it was unplanned (she'll work that out though). I'm due to see her this weekend (we don't see each other very often due to work, family and distance etc but message frequently) and I also said that I understood if she didn't feel up to seeing me yet.
She hasn't responded but has definitely read the message. I wanted to tell her before I saw her (I'm 20 weeks and getting a bump) as I didn't think it'd be nice for her to find out that way. I haven't told her how far along I am (though it's only in the last 3 or so weeks we've started telling people, including close family, so she isn't late finding out).
I don't know what to do. i obviously don't want to pester her but I don't now if I'm meeting her. I can't just turn up and see because of where we are meeting.
Any advice?