Worried about my mum

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She's not been well for a few weeks. She's always tired this time of year (works ridiculous hours in the summer, and she's 66) but she's really tired and achy and nauseous and thirsty. Absolutely refusing to see a doctor but I suspect she's hypercalcaemic and I'm worried that without help she's going to make herself really ill, plus obviously she needs a diagnosis regardless. But pressuring her just makes her dig her heels in more - I think she's frightened about what could be wrong.

My DH is like this, refuses to go get help - I have to really stress that it's likely to be nothing to make him go.

I'm sorry you're going through this x it's awful worrying about your mum and feeling helpless

Can you ask her if she will go to the GP for you, because she loves you and you are scared and worried for her? It also sounds like she might be borderline diabetic with the thirsty thing going on.

Yes I can see this is a worry and easier said than done but how about trying to convince her that NOT finding out what's causing this is much more frightening because it's out of her control. Once she has a diagnosis she can control what happens next.
Aside from that I would probably go in REALLY strongly and harshly that she is a potential danger to other people especially if she's driving/in a caring role/machinery etc. I would be reminding her of those awful 'accidents' with bus drivers who were clearly unwell and no-one did anything.

Tonight I called my dad and told him to hide her car keys tomorrow, phone her in sick and take her to the GP. Then I messaged her and told her she had to promise to go because I was only going to worry until she had.

I'm sure she's frightened about what might be wrong. I've told her it's probably just her B12 or something but she'll have googled it. She's in a lot of pain

Sorry I'm just venting really.