Do all men eventually turn into grumpy bastards?

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Have been with my DP for a little over 4 years. When we first met, he was a breath of fresh air; chatty, warm, positive and a generally happy sort. Exactly what I had been looking for in a partner as I was sick of moody, grumpy men expecting me to constantly 'cheer them up'. Fuck that. I'm not going to waste my time and energy doing that ever again.

In the last 6 months or so previously lovely DP has turned into a right grumpy bastard (he will openly admit this himself and laugh about it/apologise). He is not depressed or anything like that. He excuses the grumpiness as just part of getting older (he is 10 years my senior).

We recently went on a much anticipated holiday to a once-in-a-lifetime destination and he ruined it with his constant moaning and complaining about EVERYTHING. It is such a huge turn off.

How do I prevent him from turning into his father? Or is it a lost cause?

My DH is exactly like this - I sometimes think he's happiest when he's got something to moan about. He's 9 years older than me and says with age comes less tolerance, so whereas he used to tolerate annoying things like bad traffic, now he'll sit there and moan about it. A lot. Every. Single. Time. I have friends older than him who are generally happy, positive people so I think he's just using age as an excuse. It's so draining though.

I used to try and cajole him into a good mood but that was even more of a turn off as it felt like I was trying to distract a toddler. So I stopped doing that and just left him to moan, but now I think he's got comfortable with moaning and it's become normal behaviour.

Sorry, not helpful but I'm hoping someone will come along with some advice! (other than LTB as I do love him dearly!)

Why do women feel the need to cheer the fuckers up is my question?
My FIL is the archetypal moany twat. So moany, I can predict it.
He went into a shop to buy paracetamoll and I KNEW he would come out moaning when they would only let him buy a pack of 16 despite a long and tedious explanation from pharmacist as to the whys of it.
Wasn't having it and he took it somehow personally.
So MIL starts chatting like a leaky tap to distract him. Like a fucking toddler spitting out its dummy.
Sorry but it gets to me that these men behave like kids when life doesn't seem to roll in front of them in an unbroken line of perfection. Meanwhile, I seem to live my life despite the varied inconvenicnes thrown in my path.....not hard really

Haha...please read alongside the peri menopause thread!

Victor Meldrew normalized a lot of this carry on if you ask me.

Maybe spell out to him his df does not float your boat () and if he continues to continue on the grumpy fucker trail it will take him all the way to the spare room!

My dad is quite like this and I think it has made my mum more moany too. I think people sometimes actually don't realise how bad it sounds!

DH is like this, so I take the pee out of him when he does it which generally snaps him out of it. Every evening when he gets home he starts on a 20 minute rant about work, traffic, his parents (who he visits 2x per week on his way home). Even the dog retreats to her bed when he gets home - I think she thinks he's angry with me, but he isn't he's just ranting. He doesn't want to be a grumpy bastard, so he does apologise and laugh about it when I rib him about it.