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Should I be upset by DM’s weight observation?

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Retreatbynameretreatbynature · 18/09/2018 18:55

DM and I both weigh approximately 20 stone each, due to comfort eating, family bereavements and family worries. I literally weigh double what I did when I got married twenty odd years ago and it breaks my heart that I’m now obese and my darling DCs have to see me like this. Life is so stressful constantly and I don’t have the mental stamina to diet even though I know my weight is so detrimental to my health.
Long story short, today my DM told me to look online at an up to date picture of Charlie Dimmock and I would then see (in the before and after pictures) how much weight she has gained and it would help me to relate to this for my own situation. Reluctantly I’ve just done this and am so sad for Charlie’s sake but, on a personal level, for me. It’s such a kick in the teeth to see someone who was so slim in the 90s and how much they’ve changed now.....not for the better in my case certainly!
I can’t work out if I should be cross at my Mum or not. She would never intentionally do anything to upset me and I know it breaks her heart to see me following in her footsteps by becoming morbidly obese. But looking at these photos have just made me feel even more miserable.
I know my mum wants feedback from me once I’ve looked at the photos. What do I say??

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Justmuddlingalong · 18/09/2018 18:58

I would say ' you can fucking coco, mother.'

HollowTalk · 18/09/2018 18:58

I imagine that just as you would hate to pass this on to your DC, she hates that she's passed it on to you.

Isn't there something you could do together? I hope your mum hasn't thought she's left it too late to lose some weight now - any amount lost is good.

PurpleDaisies · 18/09/2018 19:05

I would say that although you know she’s got good intentions, you didn’t really find it very helpful. You’d rather tackle your weight in your own way.

Dieting doesn’t have to be stressful. There are small changes that will help.

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