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mid-life crisis at 40??

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tigerlionness · 18/09/2018 13:01

Anyone with words of wisdom - I would be very grateful.

I'm a LP with one 6yo DD. No local support except a fairly unavailable ex who is sporadically about and can't do regular childcare or provide financial support. I bear the financial and childcare responsibilities more or less alone. It is very stressful.

I'm having a career crisis, having done my work for 10 years now and no longer finding it rewarding, more annoying if anything. It pays well and is flexible but otherwise I'm just not feeling happy. But moving into another job is not an option as my current one fits into my childcare responsibilities. Moving into a new career path is an option but I am worrying about money etc.

Lovelife is virtually non-existant. Online dating hasn't had the results I wanted and I tend to give up after a month or two as it seems like a waste of time. (Also finding time for dates is difficult). It's driving me slightly nuts.

Am trying to build up more of a social network but my forays into it have not been that successful and I am scratching my head a bit about why. I have put a lot of effort into meeting other mums, kids etc but with little results so far.

Bored of my house - it's a cheap private rental property but I've been here several years and to be honest am bored. The decor is not great but it's expensive to rent around here and I am lucky to have somewhere so cheap.

I just don't know what to do. I am looking at options around moving away, but can't bear the thought of living closer to my family (the area is not one I want to live in). I'd also be leaving behind my ex and also the few frienships I have at home if I did.

I don't know what to do. I'm wavering between depression, anxiety, frustration, trying to change things and running out of steam. Anyone got any good tips?

Thank you.

OP posts:
MalcolmsBrokenWalrusMoneybox · 20/09/2018 14:05

Hello, not tips as such but it seems to me that some changes you want to make could potentially make things more stressful (moving house, career change). Would it help you to write a "plan" for X years time, for example maybe a career change once your daughter is at secondary school?

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