How did you feel when your younger sibling came along?

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Particularly if you were old enough to remember. Have a 7yo and am concerned about impact of new baby on him as it's just been him for so long

I hated my sister when she was born (4 years difference) but there is 3 and 4 years between my elder two and my youngest and they love her. Each situation will be different. I'm sure your 7 year old would love having a sibling.

Thanks I hope so

My youngest is 6 days old and middle is 7- he adores the new baby and was so excited throughout pregnancy, but is also quite tearful so think he’s finding it hard to adjust.

I'm sure my parents must have mentioned it, but the arrival of my brother was an outrageous shock to me, not improved when I found out he was coming home with us forever. I can still feel my youthful outrage to this day (I was 4 at the time)
Whether or not it's connected but we never got on and are all but NC now

I was really excited in advance (I was 7 and had asked santa for a baby brother for the previous three years lol)
However when he was born I did feel a bit pushed out. This may be due to the fact that my mum's family is massive (there were ten of them originally) and he was the first boy. Ergo was spoilt rotten from birth until... Well still is tbh.

So just be wary. My parents swear black and blue that there was no favouritism, but I'm still not convinced almost 30 years on.
(Me and dB get on really well now tho)

Quick tip. When child 1 is a teenager make sure child 2 doesn't have free reign to gatecrash their space. That's the time when I was most resentful!

Seven year gap between me and younger brother. I was very jealous as he was clearly far more important than a girl. He always came first and got the best of everything. The age gap meant we never had any common interests.
We did get on better as we grew up and still do.

Four years between me and my siblings but they’re twins so came together. I just had to get on with it really.

Almonds

I'm really glad it's not just me who felt that way. Wonder if our parents are related 🤔

I honestly can't remember life before them (twins). I was only 3 at the time though! One of the reasons I wanted a close age gap. Even now my eldest doesn't remember before his brother was born.

My elder sister by 5 and 6 years hated me and younger sis. She was spiteful. It might have something to do with being made to look after and parent us a bit until she rebelled big style.
So advice is don't make her a third parent and try to maintain her own space.

I'm the oldest of 5, there's only a small gap between me and bro 1 and we got on fine when we were really small.

Then there was a 10 year gap with 3 more siblings within 5 years. Sibling number 3 we were fairly excited about, when she arrived we ended up feeling very pushed out though and as the other 2 came along I got increasingly angry about it tbh. That had more to do with the fact I had to look after them though instead of being out with my mates!

10 years between me and DB. I loved and still love him dearly. But it's like the love for a nephew rather than brother. I changed his nappies, taught him to to walk, went to his sports days and now I'm worried about his GCSEs . I think I cried a lot the day I met him but my mum had been in hospital for weeks and it was a bit overwhelming seeing her hold this new baby. Got over it within 24 hours.

I adore my brother. 6 1/2 years younger. We have always got on well. I was tremendously excited when he was born. We played together from when he was 2 or 3. We don't socialise together, as different friendship groups, but have always got on. He's a great uncle to my two children.

I adored my sister when she was born. I'm 46 now, there are 4 years between us, I can still remember when my Dad came home from the hospital. It didn't last long - we HATED one another, particularly during our teens, and weren't close at all until our Mum died in 2002. We became close and we love each other again .