Calling the fabulous families with a trio of DCs!

[Lilyabelle]

Hi all, my DH and I have always had a dream of having three DCs. We already have a beautiful and very cuddly DC with another little sproglet on the way and, although I know it is a bit premature to be thinking about it, we would dearly love another if we are lucky enough to manage it in the future.

As one of three myself (middle DD with an older DS and a younger DD) I would absolutely love to hear the pros and cons of this family set-up from a parenting point of view. What made you decide to go for number 3?

Also, I was chatting with a obstetrician friend of mine who rubbished the statistic I had heard somewhere that if you have two of the same sex you are 75% likely to have a third of that sex. He said it is 50/50 each and every time. I'm really intrigued as to how many families of three have either two older DSs or two older DDs and then went on to have a third of the opposite sex. Thanks all!

In both mine and my Dsis case we had 2 DD then a DS but 1 friend has 3DD another 3DS
My DC 3 was a total surprise other 2 were fertility treatment. Quite an age gap 8 and 5 years. Big shock but wouldn't change it for the world

I’m one of 3 girls. Don’t have any DC myself but like being one of three.

We went for it because it seemed like a good idea at the time

They are (v.) close together in age and this worked well in terms of all being entertained by the same holidays/ days out at the same time. They all get on very well and always have so few refereeing responsibilities.

Can't comment on the stats. We have ds/dd/ds which probably leans more to the 50:50 ratio?

I loved being one of three too! There was always someone to talk to / play with. Obviously I have only experienced parenting one (at the moment!) so am super interested in the realities of being a mummy to three LOs. I do worry about the division of attention and my DM always says that she was constantly exhausted... I do wonder if the leap from 2 to 3 DCs is a big one or whether the 3rd just fits snugly in?

I felt like you until DC2 arrived into our lives like a tornado.

We did try after some hesitation and despite my utter exhaustion but to no avail. 2 will do just perfectly.

Wait and see. It'll feel right or wrong and then there are no guarantees either way.

I have 3, all the same sex, most people I know with 3+ have all the same sex with one exception.

Having three is amazing, I love them very much, we didn't plan it and I certainly didn't plan after a 20+ yr marriage to be doing it alone.

HOWEVER it's a big bloody jump, and would I do it again? Or course as I love DC3 but practically no. Hose families with two seem to have it far easier, with three there is always 2 Vs one, other than the rare occasions they gang up on me. It's constant noise and mess,
3 x everything is expensive and you can't do simple things like go to a amusement park without another adult (though I guess as they get older that doesn't apply). So be really really sure.

Having said that I'm one of 4, but 3 older and I wouldn't be without my family, and when my DC are on form I just adore it. Getting through the little kids stage will mean a big wonderful family and he more the merrier!

3rd has to fit in IME. Ds2 got very short shrift when it came to his nap time if we were out or being hauled out of his cot for school runs...

I had three dd' s in four years so pretty close. It was hard work but fun too. They are 13, 15 and 17 now and get on pretty well.

If you have two of the same sex then you're slightly more likely to have a third of the same sex because of genetic disorders a small percentage of couples carry and some women can only carry babies if one sex. It's not a large percentage though.

I am one of 4 and dh is 1 of 3.
3 just seemed the right number to us.

Lots of 3s in our extended family:
GGG (it was suggested to this Mum - who miscarried 2 boys - that she could only carry girls..... ??)
BGG
GGB
BGB
BGG (+G)
BGG

Don't know if that helps or not.

We wanted 3 then in reality we had dd1 then dtds. 3 is our perfect number.

1 dd
Then 6 ds's
Then 2 dd's
Then 2 ds's
Then bought a big telly +sky!!

Wow, April, you have 11 DCs?! Hats off to you!

Sex is determined by the man's sperm, some men have more of one than the other and this does skew the odds a little if you already have two of the same sex, but not by much...it's not the mother's doing!
I do remember reading about research that showed that men in really " manly" jobs ( like the army) were more slightly more likely to have daughters than sons. I have three DSs, I'm not sure what that says about DH...