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Is it bad to have DD miss a day of first week of reception for a wedding??

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Riverteo · 17/09/2018 19:32

DD started reception today and is mornings only until next week when she will do full days.

We were invited to a family wedding about 200 miles away earlier in the year. I declined because it’s on a Friday and will be DD’s first week of school.

My cousin asked today if I’m sure - someone else has pulled out at the last minute - and she’d love to have us. Got to admit, I’m tempted... is it terrible? I’d have DD pull a sickie on her first week of reception Blush I’m not sure if I could do that!

But my life is very UNglamorous and - oh! - I could I do with some glamour. (Wedding at a VERY ritzy hotel in London.) DD would flipping love it, she’d be in heaven. But it feels pretty wrong! Confused

(No possiblity of me going and we get babysitter for DD, I don’t have any nearby.)

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2cats2many · 17/09/2018 19:34

I wouldn't hesitate. Go and have a good time. She's got years and years of school ahead of her.

IslaMann · 17/09/2018 19:34

It’s one day and she’s 4. Legally she doesn’t have to be in school yet. Do it.

cravingcake · 17/09/2018 19:35

Of course you can go. DD doesn’t have to legally be in school until she is actually 5 (so you can take her out whenever for however long until her first birthday).

Think of it as a life learning experience for her as well.

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Iloveacurry · 17/09/2018 19:35

Just do it. It’s only 1 day.

SprogletsMum · 17/09/2018 19:35

I let my 2 have a day off in years 1 and 3 for a wedding. Wouldn't have dreamed of missing it for school.

cravingcake · 17/09/2018 19:36

fifth not first!

Rebecca36 · 17/09/2018 19:37

Take her, have fun. She's very young and it won't matter. There's bound to be another child off school that day too for some reason or another, eg sore throat.

Hellywelly10 · 17/09/2018 19:37

There is a terrible cold going round.

GoodHeavensNoImAChicken · 17/09/2018 19:39

Go!

I missed the whole first term of reception and started in January. I, obviously, remember none of it. Absolutely zero difference in the long run

macdhui · 17/09/2018 19:39

Wouldn’t think twice about it, go and have a special memorable time together

Normandy144 · 17/09/2018 19:39

Of course you should go. I'd even tell the school that she won't be there and the reason why. They won't approve it but that doesn't mean you can't still go. Don't lie and pull a sickie, there's no need. As others have said she doesn't legally have to be in school until the term after she is 5. You won't get fined, they can't. Enjoy yourself!!

Firsttimer1234 · 17/09/2018 19:40

Tell the school what you're doing. You will get it authorised. We authorise all weddings at my school

Original poster
Riverteo · 17/09/2018 19:43

I didn’t realise she doesn’t legally have to be there until she’s five Shock

Ahh thanks all! I feel so much better about this. Was really unsure if I should!

You think I should be honest with the school? I was going to go with that terrible cold going round... Wink

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ladygracie · 17/09/2018 19:44

Definitely go. If it was her first day then I wouldn’t. But it’s not and will give her something lovely to talk about when she’s back. Have a fab time.

victopai · 17/09/2018 19:50

Go for it! Kids also need the school of life

RavenWings · 17/09/2018 19:53

I'm a teacher and I missed a few days last year for weddings. Will be grand. Just do any catch up on your own time, don't expect the staff to supply materials (though it's the first week of reception, I can't imagine there will be any).

eve34 · 17/09/2018 20:09

Go for it. But don't tell lies. She will only tell the teacher she went to a big party and wore a pretty dress

These things come up. No one will mind one day.

Nicknacky · 17/09/2018 20:12

I wouldn’t even think twice about taking my kids out for a wedding, did it a couple of weeks ago.

Just tel them she is at a wedding.

Itchytights · 17/09/2018 20:13

She’s four.
My DS is four and I wouldn’t hesitate.

Really. Not big deal

Kee her off

WinkysTeatowel · 17/09/2018 20:20

Take her but don't lie. She will tell them all anyway and then you'll be caught out, just send a note in saying she won't be there on Friday and why. No need for anything more.

Original poster
Riverteo · 17/09/2018 20:29

Thanks you lot!! I’ve done it! I’ve told my cousin we’re coming, am looking at train tickets now. Ahhhh! I’ll tell DD in the morning as she’s asleep. She’s going to be so excited.

I am very nervous about telling school though. I don’t have any relationship with them at all yet. Do I tell her classroom teacher or the office? Will they get annoyed?? Blush

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Nicknacky · 17/09/2018 20:32

Why are you nervous and why would they be annoyed? I just phone into the office because the teacher is busy at drop off and pick up.

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Riverteo · 17/09/2018 20:37

I know I shouldn’t be, I am just worried to give a bad impression. And I hate confrontation!

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Firsttimer1234 · 17/09/2018 20:46

Just write a letter to the Head and hand it to the teacherto pass on. Mention to the teacher what the letter is. The head probably won't even read it, it will just get filed away.

Nicknacky · 17/09/2018 20:57

You are really blowing this out of proportion. There is no confrontation! You just tell them she won’t be in and they say ok. She’s your kid.

I took both mine out a few weeks ago about a week after school started. I’m not worried at all about a bad impression.