Are these meals ok?

[thenewkitchensink]

So we used to do cold lunch meals for both kids, sandwiches, crackers, fruit, yogurt etc. So they would have 3 portions of fruit with their lunch, and then perhaps 2 portions of veg with their evening meal.
I’m really struggling since my eldest started school.
She has school dinners (and 2 fruit snacks at school), so I’m begrudged to cook another hot meal for her at tea time.
That leaves what to do with our 2 year old.
He refuses point blank to have a “proper” hot lunch although this would be the easiest option, think it’s perhaps that he’s tired before nap time and just can’t be arsed!
He will have things like beans, scrambled egg, omelettes, spaghetti hoops.
So he’s now having things like
Breakfast - toast and fruit
Lunch - scrambled egg, beans, toast, omelette, toasties etc.
Tea - with his sister, sandwiches, crackers, fruit, yogurt etc.
I feel really bad as he’s not getting a proper hot meal.
I really don’t want to batch cook stuff for him like casserole to heat up for tea when his sister is having sandwiches, as he will only kick off and want what she’s having anyway.
On the other hand I’d rather not cook a whole evening meal for them both if DD has already had a 2 course hot school dinner.
What do other people do?

I've always given my DC hot meals in the evening. They're growing and they do them. However, if your DC won't eat them, you can still cook for you & your younger DC and older DC can have sandwiches or a smaller portion of what you're having.

We have stuff for dinner that they won’t eat. Things like chilli, curry, Thai etc.
There are about 6 hot meals that they will eat in rotation, but it’s stuff we don’t particularly enjoy like fish fingers and salad, cheesy salmon, spag Bol etc.
So the main consensus is still cook a hot evening meal but a smaller portion for dd.

It doesn't matter whether meals are hot or cold. At all.

Do what suits your family.
Growing up I often had home made veg soup (very thick) with breads& cheese for supper. Very nutritious.

My DD has school dinners, but most days she chooses the packed lunch option. Does your school do this? If so then you can stick with hot dinners at night only.