How to split contact at Christmas?

[Croatia2018]

Hi everyone,

I know it’s early but I was wondering how everyone split Christmas contact with EXP? EXP has two other children and I know for sure if I don’t agree to him having out DS when he’s got his other 2 children it will cause hell! Not that I’m trying to be unreasonable but I just feel that because he already has a schedule in place with mum of his two other children I need to work around that, I just feel like there should be compromises on both sides not just mine? Do people think that’s unreasonable? How do other people split Christmas? And how long does EXP have children for? I want our DS to spend time with his siblings at Christmas, I’m hydra wondering if anyone else has been in this position and how have they negotiated it?

Also how do people split New Year’s Eve? I haven’t made any plans to go out but I would like to have the option as I rarely do, is it selfish to think that I should get 1st refusal of going out New Year’s Eve? I should add EXP has the chance to go out and do what he wants 1 night every weekend or every other depending on when he has his other children

Depends how your relationship is.
I can sit and talk with my ex and compromise and organise what's best for everyone without either making demands.

Of you don't have that kind of relationship then try to focus on what the kids would like.

Hi

I alternate Christmas every year with my children's dad. I will have them Christmas Eve and Christmas morning until 12 noon then the kids go to their dad's for Christmas night and Boxing Day. The following year we do the opposite.

This will be our 6th year of doing this and so far it works really well as no one really misses out.

We do alternate. So one year we have dss Xmas eve and Xmas day and he goes back to his mum on boxing day morning and then next year she has him Xmas eve and day and we pick him up boxing day. We've always had him new years eve but that's because we don't make plans as not our sort of thing but his mum enjoys new years eve out so not a problem for us.