If you could do one thing to make someone happy

[SailAwayWithMeHuni]

What would you do and and who would you do it for?

You mean if I had a magic wand?
I’d have a buyer for my cousin’s house in SA come along tomorrow and give her a really good price for it.

She would then come back here and build a life for herself, and experience contentment.

I forgot to ask you what you would do OP?

That’s right!

With my magic wand I’d find the son that my mum was made to give up for adoption when she got pregnant very young.

Oh sail. That’s a tough one.
Is it still the case that the adopted child at 18, can seek out his/her mother but the mother can’t seek the child?
How old would the child now be?
Was it i this country?
Do the Salvation Army still try to help people find each other, I wonder? Before Facebook they were very good at helping split families.

Walk away and never return

What I meant was, you don’t hear as much about Salvation Army helping out families back in touch with each other now because there’s probably less demand for their services because of FB. I’m sure you knew what I meant though. Your mum must be so sad.

Yeah that’s still the case. My mum has tried Facebook posts etc. even tried long lost families and had a Skype session with them but they never took on her case.

He’d be 40 something now which leaves me torn as I want to help my mum but part of me thinks it’s best to leave it because he either knows he’s adopted and chose not to get in contact or he’s never found out he is adopted.

I’d absolutely love for him to get in contact with my mum though!

@SwordToFlamethrower are you ok?

If I could do anything in the world to make someone happy I'd take DH on a 6 month tour of Aus/NZ with the DC in a tourer. He's desperate for a huge adventure but is also the kind of DH who feels the pressure of needing to pay into pensions and pay off the mortgage early and keep everything going with his business. I'd buy him 6 months of freedom.

Similar to Sail. I’d find my daughter’s birth parents, but that truly would take a miracle.

OP the thing about your Brother is that there are potentially so many reasons for his silence, and none of them are really anyone's fault.

I was adopted at 10 and never sought out birth family. For no other reason than not wanting to upset my adoptive parents. It must be so hard for your mother even all these years later

Sword Is there anything we can do to help? Just listening and sending hugs on here?

I'd make my mum's long-term pain and life limiting illnesses go away. I can't remember her well and happy, painfree and genuinely belly laughing.
If forever isn't possible, I'd settle for just a short while...