Husband/instagram

[sparky89]

About two years ago, my husband an I separated for around a year and he got into a relationship with a younger woman. We decided to give our marriage another shot when our son became unwell and needed surgery. We have been back together frown around 18 months but I recently found out do the past 6 months he has been regularly searching for his girl he got into a relationship with regularly on instagram- multiple times a days I know he is not seeing her behind my back as we have now moved about two hours away but I am concerned he is still in love with her? Should I be worried?

I'm sorry that your son has been unwell. I would be concerned that your husband only got back together with you because of your son and not because his relationship had run it's course.

Has he told you much about that relationship? Of course he's under no obligation at all to share details as you weren't together but i wondered if you'd talked about that year.

I can of course understand why he'd want to be there for your son and provide you with support but I do wonder if he does still have feelings for his ex.

I would talk to him to be honest.

No advice but it seems he's not over her or is infatuated

I am very happy with my dp of 18 months .
I hope we're in it for the long haul and I love him to bits .
However I regularly look at my ex's on Instagram . It's not because I have feelings for them it s just normal interest / curiosity .
Phones are accessible and in our hands such a lot it doesn't necessarily mean he still has feelings .
I would be concerned though if my dp was checking out my phone history .
He just wouldn't though . I hope.

Why are you checking his Instagram ?

When I was curious about creating an Instagram account to promote my new business I looked at his to see how it worked and she was at the top of his searches when I clicked in the box. I have also found him looking at pictures of her regularly when he thinks I’m not behind him.
He doesn’t speak much about the relationship but I know at the time he was in relationship with he was in love with her as he was pretty much ‘infacuated’ with her. He told me he wasn’t it at the time but this was when our son was very unwell and I was very upset as I had found out they had still been talking even though he had broken up with her to try and give things ‘another go’ with me. And then I put a stop to him having all contact with her and for the first few months I did check his phone.

Sorry I mean he told me he wasn’t at the time out son became unwell I think due to my distress and that I had found out he had still been in contact with her.

Not really, all Iknow is he was in love with with her. Even though he said he wasn’t but this was when I was very upset when our son was ill and I had found out that he had been in contact with her despite us already agreeing to give it another go. It almost hurts more the fact the he may still be in love with her rather then him just having an affair with someone he doesn’t love.

You need to talk to him. He clearly still has feelings for her.

He hasn’t seen her physically for over a year now and I was hoping he would have forgotten about her by now or atleast just out her to the back of his mind and adapted.

I think you need to speak with him tell him your concerns and take it from there. Otherwise you will stuck in a vicious circle and not know where to stand x

I know you are all right, I’m just scared of the answer and what it may lead to.

Do you really want to be with a man who’s in love with someone else? It does sound, I’m afraid, like he only got back with you because your son was ill, not because he wanted the relationship. You need to talk to him

No, we went away for my birthday last night and had a lovely evening. He even took a photo of us together and posted it on his Instagram account which he never used to do. But I’m not sure if he’s doing it to try and make her a bit jealous as it’s to something he ever used to do? Plus I ithen caught him again looking at pictures of her this morning. Think I need to speak to him.