AIBU I told his pregnant wife

[jayjay83]

Ok my husband has had this mate for years they were out together the night we met. Never really spoke with him. His wife seems nice again never really spoke. Anyway out of the blue he sends me messages I responded saying hi his wife is pregnant with their first I was asking about her suddenly he says he has a secret to tell me again shocked I asked what. He starts telling he has been wk@@g over some of my pictures and some wedding pics of me in my dress. And getting quite crude. My husband was reading all the messages and was getting quite angry about it. I was horrified his poor wife so I screenshot the conversation and sent it to her. She was very angry as you can imagine then they both blocked us both on all social media and calls and texts. I know I'd want to know if it was the other way round but now I feel awful what would you have done.

As the messenger consider yourself shot.
He of course will still smell of roses.

You are better off without him in your life. I hope for his wife's sake this was a one off (not convinced) but at least she now knows so if other things happen in the future she will cotton on to the pattern of behaviour. I would rather have known if I was her, it seems she feel other wise, but you weren't to know. Thankfully it is no longer your problem.

I would have done the same.

She needs to know. You don't want to get involved. You want to send a damn clear message you're not interested to both of them. Even better you're blocked and they're nowhere near you.

Sorted.

We have never really been close I have bearly spoke to him. It was so so random I was shocked and quite grossed out. He has got previous with cheating and carrying behind her back she always forgives him he even got a woman pregnant and she still believes his lies and excuses I was kind of hoping with prove and someone she sort of knows she might see him for what he is but no I'm the one in the wrong I feel so horrible

Was he drunk when he sent you those messages? I ask because that is not normal behaviour even for a serial adulterer.

I think you did exactly the right thing. Too many women accept this sort of sleazy and sexually aggressive behaviour as an occupational hazard of being a woman. You have sent him a clear message that you are not going to keep his dirty little secret. What happens next is between him and his wife, but she had the right to know. Here’s hoping she escapes from him when she’s ready.

Good for you! Good luck to her... :(

No he wasn't drunk I don't think so it was early afternoon while his wife was at work. I told him after a few too many getting sleazier that I got the screenshots and was sending them too her. Then he got all apologetic saying he thought I'd like to know to cheer me up even though I don't need cheering up. He also said he thought my husband was at work as well. Just a complete scumbag.