Heartbroken PLEASE HELP!

[Georgieeb]

Me and my partner of 3 year had a baby girl together 11 weeks ago. Yesterday I got him to admit to cheating on me right at the start of the relationship with a girl from a night out. I thought they'd had sex because they slept in the same room with another girl but I decided to trust him. I've brought it up in conversation numerous times over the past few years and he's always looked me in the eyes and said he didn't do anything. But now he's said he did. I'm heartbroken! Would you stay with your partner if they did this?

It doesn't matter what anyone else would do, it's how you feel that matters. Do you feel like you can still trust him?

Yeah I do, I'm just so angry and crying all of the time. In one breath I think I can get over it and then the next I'm full of anger. I mean would you say it's bad that he did it 4 days into the relationship? It just hurts because of how much I love him

I think that what I'm worried about is letting myself being walked all over and treated badly. I let people do it all of the time and I don't know if that's what I'll be doing by forgiving him

You don't have to do anything or decide anything right away. You have all these emotions swirling round. Is he sorry? Does he understand the hurt the lying has caused?

TBH, to me, 4 days in, it's not serious. It wouldn't bother me. I even understand why he lied about it. I wouldn't have kept asking though. As you did, and he lied, I think that leaves you in a tricky place,

I was in a similar situation. He cheated about a month into our relationship but lied about it for 3 years. I only found out as a friend let it slip. I thought that I'd forgive him as it was so early on but in reality it just didn't feel good after that. We struggled on for another t months but it just wasn't the same. I don't think I would ever try to forgive again.