Male colleague finds it odd I don't get jealous

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We were taking today about my partner being away abroad with a few colleagues from work. He's had a bit of a jolly in the evening, boozing etc. My colleague said lucky it's not Amsterdam! I said I wouldn't care if it was, he could go to a strip club and I wouldn't mind as long as he's honest with me. Colleague was like omg aren't you worried about other women hitting on him etc. I said I don't get jealous really. Colleague said I was opening the door for him cheating on me, and asked if I would mind if he cheated on me. I was like of course j wouldn't but I just don't get jealous, unless I had reason to be eg an extremely beautiful woman pursuing him tirelessly. But that hasn't happened ever so I've no reason to be jealous.

It got me thinking, is it deemed a bad thing by males if a female doesn't get jealous? Am I an odd ball for not getting jealous?

I mean *of course I wouldn't be happy with him cheating on me

Stop having chats with your colleague about parameters for cheating and the state of your marriage.

And ignore everything he said and any thoughts it's put in your mind.

This colleague is not your friend.

I'd hazard a guess that your colleague would cheat the first chance he got, and can't quite get his head around the fact that there are men who wouldn't dream of cheating.

I infer from your post that your colleague wasn't necessarily talking about feeling jealous but more about feeling cautious. Lots of women and men understand that certain activities are more likely to present a threat to relationships so they are understandably cautious about them. I don't think it's controversial to suggest that lots of affairs start at work functions fuelled by alcohol but of course this doesn't mean that your partner will cheat on you.

I'm the same as you OP. It's called trust. It's not to say you and I trust our partners/DH more, but that we are lucky enough to be secure in the trust we have. Not everyone is so secure.

My DH isn't so secure and I know he struggles sometimes, whereas I don't.