Do you have concrete materials such as diennes?
If not, then online interactives such as this one may be helpful.
Lay out the tens for e.g. 60. Then add one unit for the +1. On a board divided into different place value columns, write the 6 (in the tens column) and then the 1 (in the units / ones column)
Then repeat a lot! It sounds to me as if he is not understanding that the 80 is made up of 8 tens, and the 3 is made up of 3 units - and things like coins don't help as a 10p does not look like 10 1ps.
If the adding on is too hard, just get him to make lots of numbers - first multiples of 1 (4,5,9), then multiples of 10 (40,50,90), then combinations of those (41).
Take the numbers like 41 apart and show that they are, quite literally, 40 + 1, so that you can do that process the other way round (put 40+1 together to make 41).
Each step may take a long time. Don't move on until he can do each step really confidently.
If he struggles even with numbers within 10 (so might find e.g. what 7+2 is hard) then Numicon is probably the appropriate visual manipulative, and comes with excellent step by step plans. Your school should have it, as it is really expensive to buy privately.