Does your DH email you questions there are no answers to?

[RedSkyLastNight]

DH has just emailed
"I've looked on the school website, and it says that the school Easter holidays in 2019 are x dates. Is this correct?"

(School website is generally up to date and where I'd look to check when holidays are. Not sure what additional "insider" knowledge he expects me to have!)

Does he generally talk to you like that?

Just say "I don't know is it"

Take him down OP...ask him why precisely he imagines you know better than the real actual LEA site for school holidays, ask him if he imagines you are moonlighting as a web master in charge of all school holiday pages, ponder about spending your bounteous wages for said job on a SHL and stiffing him for his pension, and a vast amount of spousal maintenance payable until hell freezes over

Sarcasm and snippiy is the way to go here...make him RUE THE DAY he ever thought he would bother you with his stupid questions

RUE THE DAY

My DP does this. Drives me mad. Last night as an example he's shown me a discount code he got sent and asked me what it meant....clearly said £30 off when you spend £200, absolutely no ambiguity. He asked me no less than 3 times. The man is not an eejit, he has a Big Important Job.....but clearly disengages his brain at home

My DH actually emailed me from the lounge the other day (I was in the kitchen). I didn't reply.

No. In fact DP doesnt email me unless forwarding something

Idaho are you being sarcastic

MsHomeSlice

I must say, our school's website gives the term dates.... Then from that I had to work out the sodding holiday dates. I'm not thick but it did take a bit of working out, checking and head scratching....

I don't think DH has ever emailed me anything unless it was to forward a ticket or receipt that needed printing off? Should we be emailing each other?

We generally would talk to each other if we wanted to ask each other a question. I have to admit your DH's tone would annoy me, it's very smug and smacks of self importance (I am too important to double check that this is accurate you do it instead).

I’d reply ‘I’ll let you know after my latest meeting of the top secret Easter dates for school holidays committee. Actually , I won’t be able to tell you, or id have to kill you. It’s a top secret committee. Crap, how are we going to resolve this?

I would just get when are the school holidays?

Maybe he suspects you're having an affair with the schools Headteacher to try and get the Easter holidays shifted and he's trying to trick you into admitting it.

Or maybe he thinks he can impress you that he's managed to look up a calendar.

Try 'hmm, not sure, you'd better check with them'. Do not agree to be the checker.

I’d be so tempted to forward that to the school and say

just want to confirm that the dates displayed on the website for the 2019 Easter holiday dates are
A) for 2019
B) relevant for the Easter period
C) applicable to this school

Thank you for your help on this

But then, I have zero shame.

And cc him of course.

Nameless you could pretend to do that? Forward the email to yourself then edit the text so it looks like you have forwarded it to the school. Then send it to DH "FYI"

My husband asks me stupid questions like this all the time. My standard reply is what do you think? 🤔 sometimes he gets so used to me being organised he just stops thinking for himself.

if he has emailed from work can you email back something NSFW and cause and IT havoc ....I am still making him RUE THE DAY

Just say
I can’t tell you because I’d have to kill you.

Very tempted to take on Nameless' suggestion. Rather boringly, I replied "I imagine so, if that's what the school website says. You could always ring the school office to check".

We often email each other (neither of us like texting) if things occur to us during the day (we both have dreadful memories and will forget otherwise) when we are at work so the slightly terse tone is normal.

To be fair ... the question would normally have been "when are the school Easter holidays?" to which I would have replied "I don't know, look on the school website" as I refuse to be his secretary. Maybe I have "half" trained him??

My DH’s hobby is asking me questions with no answer, by text, email and in person. I just reply that I don’t know until he tires of rephrasing and either finds out for himself or lives with not knowing. Until recently we were living in different countries in very different time zones, so email and text were the best way to communicate.

Not if he wants to live!

God everyone here is so quick to criticise him. He wanted to know the dates, at least he took the initiative to go to the website and check. If, as you said, he would normally just ask you, he thought there might be a possibility the dates may change yet? Maybe you know that the school always books a particularly early week so he's asking so he knows for future?

He took the initiative. I would have said, 'I haven't looked myself, but if that's the dates theyve posted, that's what I would go by, no need to double check.' probably would have put a smiley at the end as well..

Exactly Ruby - the first reply may as well have said he was abusive

Knowing my luck I’d send it, the school secretary would come back and say thank you so much for checking, someone just lashed in the same weeks as last year and this year Easter is different. We’d have never caught it without you.

And then my husband would be insufferable

cjt mine are at two different schools. One website gives term dates, the other holiday dates. I always have to get the calendar out to work that one out 😁