Single working parents - how do you cope with illness??

[ChiaraRimini]

I feel like I'm in a constant state of despair at letting someone down, whether it's work, kids or whatever. I have asthma and if I get a cold it nearly always becomes a chest infection which can make me really poorly. I had 4 days off sick last week during which I worked from home a couple of hours a day as I had big deadlines to meet. Went back to work on Monday feeling crap. Then DD came down with same bug and has been off school for 3 days now so I've been at home with her. I've been trying to work from home but I'm still feeling really poorly myself so not getting much done.
Luckily my work are understanding but I feel so guilty, as it feels like there's always something going wrong that means I am missing work.
I don't have any family close by to have the kids if they are sick, and their dad moved away when we split so I don't have any back up.
I don't know if there's any solution but just needed to vent :-/

There isn’t a solution. Some people are very lucky to have family around and it used to drive me mad. I felt like I spent years begging favours, juggling the children and palming them off.

I was never allowed to be ill myself and that really got me down.

Thanks @Namechanger1776
It's crap isn't it. I hate being "that parent" stuffing Calpol into DC and crossing fingers they will be ok at school. I've got two off today plus me so no chance really. Going to the doctors now.

DH works away all the time so I did a lot of working from home when kids were sick. I know exactly what you mean about always feeling like you're letting someone down. I don't have an answer, and at least I had some respite at weekends when DH came home. Just sympathy. It does get much easier as they get older.

What do you do for wrap around care? I realise it may not be affordable but we have a CM who will have them if too sick for school but with eg a cold rather than D&V.

It's an absolute nightmare op. And incredibly stressful. I find myself winging it all the time, fingers crossed and hope for the best. I never get time to be ill myself either.

My CM can't have them in the day if they are sick. I think I just have to suck it up. Being poorly myself just makes everything seem much worse.