What did I do wrong?

[Stickmangate]

So first day for dc in reception today has been at nursery for 3 full days a week since 12months. So why was mine the only child at school today screaming and crying?

No nice first day photos for me! So just need to vent. Sitting in my car crying now managed to hold it together and be all happy taking him in.

He took the uniform off said he didn’t want to wear it so I put him in the car in pants as I cant have th uniform agurment everyday! Got dressed in the car before we moved. I’ve tried to make it light hearted but I’m dreading the next few weeks.

Has he had much time away from you (ie nursey/days out with grandparents for example) ?

Is he shy? Could just be unfamiliar surroundings

On my first day at school I can remember crying for my dad when he left but honestly by time he picked me up I was ok, I was just a painfully shy child that hadn’t ever been away from my parents much at that age

He’s been on nursery 8-5:30 3 days a week since 12 months old and goes off with my mum fine.

He doesn’t like change and likes to sit and watch before getting involved. It just feels like anoher thing I’ve failed at which i know is silly. It’s why I don’t want anyone in rl to see me so upset. It’s not him being upset it’s me thinking g I’ve failed in some way that’s making me upset iyswim.

Just need to let it out somewhere. I don’t feel bad leaving him there I just don’t see how everyone else mamanges a happy child. God that is so self centred of me!

It's just a big change for him. Things will settle down soon. My sons clung to me like limpets when they started school and were fine after the initial few weeks.

It doesn't matter how many days he has spent at nursery, this is still a new situation for him and like you say he doesn't like change. I know how he feels - I still hate starting a new job it fills me with absolute dread and takes me ages to feel relaxed even though I have been working for years!

I think you should remember that this is one of those times when your child is finding something more difficult than another child. Getting used to going to school is harder for some children. From your perspective it's very public that he's finding it difficult but it's no reflection on you as a parent. Every child is different and every child will find something more difficult than another child. Some struggle to ride a bike, others to read and so on but most of those struggles are very private. He'll be OK in time and you're doing just fine as you managed to hold it together.