What would you think?

[mamakoukla]

Having a chat with Dh - a few years ago I was attending an extracurricular class where I received one on one training. My regular teacher was absent and a replacement was sent in. The replacement said that I should go to him as a student, he would make me great etc. I wasn’t comfortable with this as it sounded like trying to poach a student. He then started asking whether I had an older sister and also tried to cadge a lift home (I have to walk as my son came to take the car). What would you think if the latter? DH thought the older question odd; to me, it was almost a bad pick up line (and I have this one before). It becomes relevant as teacher changes may place me in his path and I am not sure whether I have misinterpreted. Viewpoints please?

(And I might be uncomfortable with this person.) but maybe I got it wrong

All could be completely normal tbh. Maybe he thought you familiar, or you had a surname that might have been an older girls that he also taught so he wanted to ask of there was a connection. Maybe he needed a lift home, did you give him a lift?

No, I didn’t give him a lift as I felt uncomfortable. Good points about the other items. Surnames are often not disclosed to teachers to avoid student poaching when teachers move.

That could easily be something or nothing, only you were there to know what it felt like. If you're not comfortable make sure you avoid him in future.

Is there a reason this is playing on your mind or just it came up talking to DH?

It really could be either

It is playing on my mind as he may end up becoming my teacher. I was uncomfortable at the time but I am asking myself was I being unfair? I generally run like the clappers from unwanted attention .... so yes that’s me maybe a bit odd. The attempted student poach was bad form; was he trying to flatter me and convince me I guess - in which case, manipulation. This does ring alarm bells because of bad past experiences especially at the time I met this person (hence wondering if I have misinterpreted and perhaps seen something not there). I guess, maybe I am the piece not fitting in here

The general conversation was towards flattery and I don’t enjoy being fawned upon.

I think he hadn’t done enough for it to definitely be something but the main thing is your comfort levels and if he is your teacher in the future then maybe as op said keep him at arms length for your own well being.

Even if it was something, it may not be something now too. But honestly it could still be nothing g which is why I would play it by ear but just do what’s right for you if that makes sense x

Thank you! I know I might have been overreacting. Your thoughts and advice have been helpful and appreciated