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Is it odd not to cry when your child starts school ?

89 replies

LardLizard · 12/09/2018 21:18

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OP posts:
Dandybelle · 12/09/2018 22:09

I bawled my eyes out. But I'm 30 weeks pregnant, my DD was also in bits pleading with me not to leave her, and she'd turned 4 only 10 days before.

I still get emotional thinking about it, was terrible. She loves it now.

ShakespearesSisters · 12/09/2018 22:25

I didn't when she had her first day last week, or any subsequent mornings. Today however I almost started blubbing in home bargains. Wednesday morning would be our time (elder sister in school and our day off work/nursery) and we'd normally nip in here before going to music club. There was another mum with her preschooler and I had a moment of sadness as I realised we wouldn't be doing that again.
Then I got my shopping done in half the normal time 😁

BackforGood · 12/09/2018 22:26

Of course not. It is an exciting time for them.

Rosemary46 · 12/09/2018 22:28

I didn’t know i was supposed to cry, no one told me it was a thing.

Just another ways I’ve failed as a parent

Ragwort · 12/09/2018 22:32

No, I didn't cry, I was just delighted that he went happily into school with a smile on his face unlike some of the other children sobbing & clinging to their parents and I was very happy to have child free time. However this is the child that cried when I picked him up from his first day with a childminder as he didn't want to come home Grin. He will, hopefully, be off to university next year and I am thoroughly looking forward to my 'empty nest', I think my DH will find it a lot harder than I will.

Abouttime1978 · 12/09/2018 22:40

I've just sent my second child into reception.

I didn't cry. He was more than ready to go and has been full of beans so as he started (after two weeks of him stressing about it).

I love welcoming new chapters and my older two have settled to school well.

If your child is finding it rough, that's different, and must be so hard.

But growing up is inevitable, and there is always another part of parenting to enjoy.

Sarahandduck18 · 12/09/2018 22:42

Why would you?

PandaG · 12/09/2018 22:49

I have not cried at the starting infants, juniors or secondary, as these have all been exciting and new and the right next step, a new challenge or opportunity. I have, however, cried at the leaving - nursery, infants and juniors. Each experience has been great and I have been sad they are there no longer, as well as excited for the next thing. Ask me again in a couple of weeks, as I fear I will cry on the way home from first drop off at university!

Rebecca36 · 12/09/2018 23:01

Not unusual, I didn't cry and I'm a great cryer!

DontMakeMeShushYou · 12/09/2018 23:08

God no. I've never cried when they've started school, although I have been a little teary when they've left, especially the youngest as it's the end of an era each time.

Katedotness1963 · 13/09/2018 01:01

Some people are more emotional than others. I don’t understand why this is looked on as weak and a bad thing.

BakedBeans47 · 13/09/2018 01:05

Some people are more emotional than others. I don’t understand why this is looked on as weak and a bad thing.

Is it? I generally cry at everything. Kids starting school just didn’t “get” me in that way

Iwantacampervan · 13/09/2018 07:20

PandaG - are you me?
Saturday's the day for us! Starting Reception, Secondary School and Sixth Form College - no problem but this next step is going to be tough, not helped by the fact that youngest daughter is away for the weekend so I'll be home alone until Sun evening.

SoyDora · 13/09/2018 07:22

I didn’t.
I cried (privately) 2 weeks in when she told me she has no friends and spends playtimes sitting on her own though Blush

StableGenius · 13/09/2018 07:22

If it's odd, I'm odd. (More than likely.)

I saw it as the start of an exciting new stage for all of us, nothing to cry about. But then, I only cry at music or terrible events in the news/personal life, so it's just not the kind of thing that would trigger my tears.

LittleBookofCalm · 13/09/2018 07:23

Only my third and last child i sobbed, and perhaps my first.
but not my middle, and nothing personal just matter of fact

StableGenius · 13/09/2018 07:24

Having said that, I felt like crying this morning when dd1, a week in at her new school, told me it feels lonely. She's nearly 15!

BiggerBoat1 · 13/09/2018 07:27

I cried on their first day, cried when they went on their residential and cried when I saw someone else's child bravely walking to their new secondary school last week. I may need to have a talk to myself! Grin

GreenMeerkat · 13/09/2018 07:28

No it's fine!

I cried, but I'm 8 months pregnant. I don't think I would have if I wasn't.

ButlinsCanbuggeroff · 13/09/2018 07:28

Didn't cry for the first, I did for the last. Not unhappy just a bit strange to know the baby thing is well and truly done. These threads are always a bit smug.

Littlelambpeep · 13/09/2018 07:30

I didn't cry and I usually cry easily. Think I was glad to see him develop normally and knew he was ready.

Mumwotdrums · 13/09/2018 12:56

I didn't cry when my DS started school. But I did miss him a lot.

However, I did cry when he started college the other week! 😂 I must be getting soft in my old age. Lol.

Mumwotdrums · 13/09/2018 12:57

Ha ha. I am exactly the same! 😂

foxessocks · 13/09/2018 13:01

I didn't cry. Felt excited for her but she wasn't upset or nervous so that makes it easier. When ds goes I might feel different as he is a bit shy at the moment and he's my youngest!

ScrambledSmegs · 13/09/2018 13:08

No, I didn't cry, DH did though. I felt like there was something wrong with me till I realised none of the other mums were crying either. We were just so relieved Grin.