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I slept with someone that happened to be my boyfriends friend but it was before I knew my boyfriend

19 replies

Boj9 · 12/09/2018 19:21

Before I met my boyfriend I slept with someone then once I started talking to my boyfriend I realised and I told him the truth and his friend tried to lie because he didn’t want him to know but I was always truthful, he was upset at the start and I don’t blame him but I told him I didn’t know him then and I didn’t mean to hurt him.
I said if it’s going to be a problem in the long run I want to end it now because I don’t want that unnecessary drama he agreed we both leave it in the past untill the other day he bought it back up and said he has tried to live with it and can’t? Now he’s breaking up with me because of it..

OP posts:
LurkingQuietly · 12/09/2018 19:23

Your post is really difficult to follow but if you slept with this bloke before you even met your boyfriend and he's got a problem with it, fuck him. Consider it a lucky escape.

mamaslatts · 12/09/2018 19:23

Sorry that's crap, he is probably using it as an excuse to break up with you.

EggysMom · 12/09/2018 19:23

What would I do? Say good riddance to him.

You are bound to have slept with other men before him. If you mix in similar circles, there is going to be a chance that he knows, and perhaps is even friends with, at least one of those men. If he cannot accept that, it's his problem - not yours.

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Redken24 · 12/09/2018 19:24

God he needs to grow up. Better off without someone who can't get over a meaningless shag years ago.

Pinkkahori · 12/09/2018 19:27

This happened to me. I had a fling with a guy after a bad break up. It didn't last long but was fun while it did. About a year later I met my now DH. Turned out fling was a friend and housemate of his. I was actually in the house they shared but never met Dh.
We've been married 15 and it's never been an issue.
Everyone has a past. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Pity your bf can't see that.

Rose260 · 12/09/2018 19:36

Same thing happened to me. Although not married but kind of having issues with a dog walking acquaintance. He asked if i was in a relationship and he told me he has a gf. He just approached me out of blue. Anyway got friendly even walking dogs together. Plenty of eye contact and staring by him. From distance then nothing.. Blip!! Now avoids doesn't speak but conveniently still stares fro. A distance and will talk when spoken to! He shows up with his dog a lot again now conveniently same time as we arrive, stares at us or waits conveniently where he can be seen. Is this guy dangerous do you think?

CosmicCanary · 12/09/2018 19:38

Run for the hills.

You deserve better.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 12/09/2018 19:48

I don't see how that is the same at all Rose Hmm

OP how old are you? And how long have you been dating this guy?

Emmageddon · 12/09/2018 20:16

@Rose260

What?

CrochetBelle · 12/09/2018 20:31

I'd have to go full on more mature than him and tell him I'd also fucked his mom.

Original poster
Boj9 · 12/09/2018 21:35

I’m 20 and been together for 6 months but talking for longer

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drumnadrochit · 12/09/2018 22:19

Whit?

Rebecca36 · 12/09/2018 22:22

He's got a great excuse. You're well out of the relationship and will find someone better.

(If you were in Eastenders you'd have not only slept with his friend but most of his friends and his relatives too, maybe even some of your own!)

drumnadrochit · 12/09/2018 22:30

Rose260 equally, whit?

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 12/09/2018 22:33

Honesty he just needs to grow up. He's feeling jealous.
Either he will get over it or you will get fed up of his insecurity.
Don't put up with too much crap OP. You are very young and there are plenty more fish X

Cahira · 12/09/2018 22:33

This happened to me but with DPs brother. And it was years before we got together.

His brother was visiting my town whilst at university, we had a one night stand and I never saw him again. A few years later, I met DP through mutual friends. It was a pretty awkward conversation when I discovered who his brother was but as said in PPs, I have a past, it was a huge coincidence (although admittedly very embarrassing) and I never had feelings for his brother.

Is that what he's worried about? That you and his friend might be attracted to each other? You haven't done anything wrong and you can't change the past.

whymewhyme · 12/09/2018 22:36

Oh god how pathetic, you weren't with him then!!! See it as a lucky escape cuz he sounds like a knob!

ShrodingersSturdyPyjamas · 12/09/2018 22:40

You are only 20, you are likely to have loads of boyfriends before you settle down...next time, if any boyfriend asks, just keep private info to yourself, it is nobody's business who you slept with.

*if you do settle down, it isn't compulsory.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 13/09/2018 14:45

He's being an arse and trying to use this to control you.

Ditch him.

Did he expect you to be a virgin before you met him?

You are well rid.

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