Whats the worst experience u have had at school with the other parents?

[Coldshoulders]

Just curious to know if this is just me or if other parents can relate. Has anyone had bad experiences while picking or dropping children off to school by the other mum's? I will start by saying my son has autism (8 years old)and another parent the other day said (in front of the class so my son heard, the other parents and the teachers) that her child is not my son's carer in school! I literally felt heartbroken because I thort they was best friends and didn't realise her child was doing my son a favour by being friends with him! Obviously I went into lioness protecting her cub mode, is this just me or can some parents at school be nasty shallow minded bitches 😂 curious to know if anyone else has had playground problems with dickhead parents 😂

There's nice people and not so nice people everywhere you go...the school gate is no different.

If the mum had a concern with regards to her DC and yours, she should have approached the teacher to discuss it privately rather than talking so other parents and more importantly the children could hear.

This is based around another thread isn’t it?

That does sound tricky but it also sounds like there's a backstory that's missing from the OP.
There's not enough context to know whether YABU and "going into lioness mode" also sounds like a euphemism for being quite unpleasant back.

I did write another post about this but I was just curious to know if other people have had any bad experiences at school with the other parents and when a stranger approaches me with her finger pointing shouting at me in front of the full school playground I will get defensive because the right way to approach some one is to say excuse me please can I have a word about an issue with our children not finger pointing and shouting so all the school and children hear lol I prob was abit unpleasant back but soon as we both calmed down spoke about any issues with our children I think it kinda got resolved. The issue was my son hit another child in school which I was not aware of and I don't agree with any violence and my son was told off. Sometimes kids will be kids and we all love our children and would do anything for them which I understand but the carer comment was quite upsetting and not only did my son hear that but the full of his year did and it upset him. Just because he's got autism doesn't mean he can hit anyone and it also doesn't mean he should be made to feel a burden by playing with the other children. Infact my son and the rest of the class and other mothers shouldn't of heard anything at all, but then again I wasn't pulled asside to speak about it rationally and privately. I just had some stranger shouting and pointing fingers in my face and made me feel that somehow my son isn't equal to the other children in the class and anyone who plays with him is caring for him, and he's not capable of being friends with anyone because he will be a burden that needs caring for rather than an equal 8 year old child who wants to be friends. I felt it was a low blow, kids argue kids fight kids make up or maybe I'm just taking that statement wrong. Either way autism or no autism I won't allow my son to hit anyone and I have addressed the issue but I left feeling like it didn't need to be said. Shes still giving me the evils even tho it's all sorted the kids are all friends and like I said before it's not the fact she pulled me up as I'm happy to sort any problems out it's the way it was done, and the caring statement for me was too far and uncalled for x

cold that mum was an arsehole.

A school mum that I was very close to said similar about there child. And it made me look at her in a very different light.

Some children are caring people and gravitate to other children who need it. Totally unforced.

I would have said something back. Horrible

I would of preferred a quiet chat in the corner of the playground privately and if there's angry emotions that's fine coz I would do anything for my son as any other mum would I'm not saying he can hit anyone at all I'm just saying the way it was done and the things that was said have been on my mind and the embarrassment I felt this morning aswell oh and now all the other parents and children know my business. That's all I was saying lol x

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The mums behaviour you described is terrible. It's generally accepted that you don't even approach parents nicely about issues but discuss with the school instead.

Had a mum inform me in the park that my son was bullying hers at school.

Digging a little deeper, it transpired that her son was in foundation 1 and mine was in foundation 2. They two year groups share a playground, but are never in it at the same time.

I told her that whoever was doing whatever to her son it wasn’t mine and that she needed to go into school to sort it out.

Never heard anything else about it, let alone a sorry.

Tbh if my son has done wrong I will sort any problems out but my little boy and all his school heard that statement and it rather upset him. I actually went home and cried. Shes in the mum click so no doubt slagged me off still had a face on her today even tho I did what I said I would do and he has apologised and said he wudnt do it again. And the kids are all friends again like kids do lol. What I will say is when I walked over to this mum to ask are u talking to me as I don't even no who u are or who ur kid is or what ur on about she changed her attitude when she realised I wasn't going to stand there and be shouted at and my son's disability mentioned in a way like her child is doing my child a favour by even acknowledging him and by being his friend but he's got autism so it's not being his friend it's being his carer 😂. Tbh personally I wouldn't want her child to feel like that n tell her to stay away from my son if she does but I'm a believer of 8 year olds choose who there friends are and if her child didn't want to play with my child then she wouldn't. I found it funny the kids have made friends and the mother still has a face on her because she didn't expect me to say anything back. Not having my son humiliated and put down and being made to feel he has no friends just carers because of any one my son struggles to fit in as it is without him hearing that bad enough if she said it to me in private but in front of the full school. Now that's how to parent be rude shallow confrontational and discriminate my son's disability 😂 wonder what other parents made of it lol