Pop incident

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Can I have your thoughts on this, please? The childminder seemed cross with my 3 year old when I got there today. She said DD had been repeated asking for the toilet and when she went for a poo, she shouted down for help and they found she had ‘smeared poo all over the sink’.
I know this sounds bad, but I can’t help thinking that she was trying to wipe independently (as we’ve been encouraging her) and got in a mess, then touched the sink. After all, it wasn’t over the floor and walls.
The childminder was more negative, making it sound as if she was asking to go the toilet so she could do this on purpose.
Do I need to be worried? Everything on the back internet says poo smearing is a sign of trauma, and the childminder certainly took it seriously?

Poo, sorry!

Get yourself another child minder. I wouldn’t be happy with the idea of her being cross with my child, she’s only three ffs.

That’s exactly what my DH has just said, Trevor. He’s furious that the CM was annoyed. I was starting to wonder if it was more serious that I was considering it, so thank you.

Three is far too young to go to the toilet unsupervised, let alone wipe themselves after poo. I’m sure people will pile on to say their children managed to toilet completely independently at two, but that’s not my experience.

Teach her how to wipe properly herself. I thought most kids were wiping independently at that age.

Lol - at the contrasting last 2 posts - far too young to do this herself, should already be doing it! So mumsnet!

I think she made a good attempt and the childminder should have just got some wipes and sorted it silently, actually helping the child if she is going to have an issue with it.

I think I may leave it this time but if there is one more mention get another childminder!

I don't think your childminder sounds very supportive. She should have been there to help wipe then praised her.