Do you find the term miscarriage / miscarry offensive?

[Crunchymum]

Just reading an article DM so I don't look it and that annoying bloke from Dawson's Creek was saying how he thinks there should be a new word as "mis carry" apportions blame to women.

Having had 6 losses I've never given it much thought. He is just being a twat right?

I don't find the term miscarriage offensive, however when I did lose my baby I went to my GP the following week for a sick note for work & noticed my notes said missed abortion that upset me more than anything.

What's it got to do with a bloke anyway, and why should we be remotely interested in the opinion of someone off the telly?

I actually agree with him too. I thought exactly the same when I had a miscarriage a few years and realised how much I hate the term. To say ‘I miscarried’ or ‘she miscarried’ does sound like that person has done something wrong or is to blame in some way. I don’t know what the alternative is though.

Miscarry doesn't bother me, but "lost the baby" gets right up my nose as it implies I was careless. Guess different people will feel differently over it all.

for anyone who has experience of the topic

To the pp who said they don’t like the term ‘loss’ - I agree! My dad died over 20 years ago and I used to be so cross if anyone said we’d ‘lost’ him. We didn’t lose him - that would be careless. He died.

I have had a miscarriage. I blamed myself to some degree. I think we generally do question what we could have done differently. I don’t believe the word miscarriage implies blame myself.

It wasn’t on my mind at the time, re-naming it wouldn’t have made things any less crap, but I think the term doesn’t really it justice tbh. I particularly hate it when (in the media etc) a late pregnancy is described as a miscarriage when it clearly isn’t.

Looking back, for me personally, I think that pregnancy deserves a better memory than a ‘miscarriage’.

No.

60sname your response he made me a little cross. There is a lot of pressure put on women to give birth ‘naturally’ and many many women, including myself then struggle to deal with negative feelings including guilt when they need to have an EMCS or even an ELCS.

@anotherangel2 true, and it's a shame that so many people end up feeling like that about a process over which they have no control. In my opinion NCT etc al are to blame for this rather than the medical terminology.