Holiday with in-laws already had melt down

[holidaymeltdown]

As the title says.

Only got here today for 7 nights and already cried making an absolute fool of myself. (Over nothing really)

I have post natal depression, and this holiday was booked well before baby was born and probably not a great idea now.

Any advice on surviving the week, and not looking absolutely ridiculous which I currently do.

I don't have any good advice, I just didn't want to read and run

Hopefully no one is actively trying to make you feel bad.

Wa there somethifn specific that made you cry or just generally feeling overwhelmed

What has made you have a meltdown ? Is it something that can be avoided for the next week ?

Can you give us more details on what made you cry or what specifically you are struggling with in regards to in-laws?
How old is baby?
Sympathy for the pnd, it's horrible x

Take your self away from the famliy as much as possible. Say you have a cold coming on.
As you had PND
Drinking is not good idea .Which is what I do. Any bad behaviour can be blame on that.
I vote cold on your condition . Go to bed early and sleep in ( baby get you up in night)
Are breast feeding take baby away to it. Say need peace to feed. If bottle feeding let DH and in laws do .
And go bed as feeling in .
Get headaches as well so need peace .
Let them go out with baby if bottle feeding. If breast stay in and let them go out.
In other words hide in room as much as possible.

And mumnet and Netflix the holiday away.

Thanks all, I'm going to sound so daft crying was over going to a supermarket. Husband is brill but incapable of following a list well so I wanted to go and needed baby things (he's 7 months) but FIL kept saying he'd go with DH (he hasn't been to a supermarket in about ten years unsure why he wanted to today) and he kept going on and on and it got too much so I took baby into another room and cried.

I'll add I think I was mostly overwhelmed I'd been doing pretty well and am on anti depressants but had a very difficult week with lots of other my family related stressors and today I felt I had to keep going on about that's time food/bottles were to stop and I wasn't really being listened to and I was constantly worrying but being told to chill out ( which I probably need to do)

Well you bottle feeding so that is good . Now just stay in bed and become ill. Let them fuss you . Enjoy a different 4 wall.

Do your PILs know you have PND?

A holiday with the ILs or a 7 month old baby can be pretty stressful before the two are combined and also with PND! Be kind to yourself and give yourself a break.

If you can, hand baby over a bit to DH and ILs. Baby can join them to places like the supermarket and you can sleep and get used to your surroundings.

What's MIL like? Can you talk to her about how you're feeling? And if not, make sure you and DH have some code or something you can use which means he knows when it's getting too much and he can ensure you step away.

Hope you can enjoy yourself once you're comfortable!

In laws are aware of PND, I didn't want them to know but it happened before I could say and I doubt husband would have listened anyway.

This morning feel like going to burst already, was up at 5.30 with baby, have now made everyone breakfast.

I'm probably being daft but FIL keeps going on about how we need to get fit and healthy. He's saying this about himself and dh, as everything has to include my dh. Neither is massively overweight maybe half a stone-stone heavier than they'd like. Yesterday he wouldn't eat any snacks/dessert we'd bought and I feel like it's a dig at me as have admittedly gone from size 10 to a 14 since having baby. Didn't gain weight during pregnancy but have comfort ate packs of biscuits etc when breastfeeding. And we'd bought some treats for this week as on holiday.

FIL has been negative about where we are planning to buy house (we're currently looking) saying everyone on the estate is a stereotype and they're all the same. Basically we should live in a caravan apparently?! I'd point out they do not live in a caravan nor does anyone else they/we know.

Also not being listened to with baby, the caravan door was opened by FIL to get smell of food out as cooking and because it's fairly warm. He was holding ds so gave him his hooded dressing gown to put on satin gown to cover his ears from the draft, he said he's boiling hot and didn't. MIL told him to and again didn't. After yesterday didn't want to make a fuss so I managed not to take ds off him which is what I wanted to do.

Sorry this all sounds very self pitying.

Also baby isn't teething he's tired, he doesn't need his milk he's tired you can't make him stay awake for it, and he's too hot. Basically whatever I say or do I'm wrong, I know nothing about the child I spend all day everyday with,

Say that ! Ie you spend all day with YOUR son you apreciate any help but you know your child best

I can't. I've let them all go out with ds and I'm staying in. Can't stop crying now I've started.

OP are you okay? I have just seen this.
I had PND with my first and it's horrendous.
Try get a moment to talk to you dh and let him know you are struggling. Sometime even just saying it helps.
Is it possible for you dh and ds to do something together alone. Even just a walk.
And don't feel you have to be separated from baby if you don't want to be. Pil and dh could do something and you and baby rest.

Thanks for asking, managed to go for a walk just three of us and row chat with husband and feel better for it. We've all been out this afternoon and have just had a nice shower and sitting down to watch bake off in new pjs so things are looking up.

That's great OP.
There will be up days and down day. It's hard but as long as you keep talking it will get better. Good luck and enjoy the rest of the holiday