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bounty5 · 10/09/2018 12:18

We got her at the beginning of the summer at a time when my husband worked mainly from home. Our circumstances are now changed, so looks like we have to sell her. I think we've considered all possibilities of holding onto her. But in case there is an angle that I have overlooked, I am appealing to mum's net... We've asked family and friends to look after her during the week and holidays (I work in a college, term-time only so am free in holidays), but no-one is able to take on the long term commitment. We tried 'borrow-my-doggy' - but that would be a bit patchy, unreliable, not fair on her and stressful for us. So we've found a buyer and met up with them... Assuming they are interested, she will spend a final weekend with us, then on Sunday it will be goodbye! Any last minute ideas before we take the plunge?? Or since a sale is looking likely, I would like to know if anyone has been through this before. My 12 year old will be especially upset - does anyone have any inspirational words that will help us through this difficult time?

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Oddcat · 10/09/2018 14:34

Op , you must have a thick skin ! You were slated on your other thread and have now started another one .

I can only assume you're on a wind up.

ApolloandDaphne · 10/09/2018 14:35

I don't think your LL would give a shit who you have a key to. If you had a cleaner they would have a key.

Poor pooch.

mydogishot · 10/09/2018 14:38

Go to the mirror, look into your own eyes and tell yourself "I am not fit to look after any pet, I will never consider pet ownership ever again"

How's that for inspirational words?

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twoheaped · 10/09/2018 14:38

A dog is for life etc etc.

Doggy day care, or the cheaper option, a walker.

If you truly wanted to keep her, you'd find a way.

BigChocFrenzy · 10/09/2018 15:02

Be honest with yourself and your DD:
you just want to get some of your money back - isn't that right ?

You can't / won't pay for doggy care.

You regard this poor dog as a commodity you bought and are now trying to recoup your losses

It would be different if you were rehoming her with a family member or a good friend whom you trust.
However, you are selling to a random, who could want her for a puppy farm, the warmup act for a dog-fight,
or could just be as silly as you and pass her on to somone else afetr a few months,

Best for the dog is to return her to the breeder, if this wasn't a puppy farm or also from Gumtree

Otherwise, give her to a rescue, who will vet her new owners professionally, not like your amateurish / commercial attempts.

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Oddcat · 10/09/2018 15:13

The op must be on a wind up ,or has a death wish !

Wolfiefan · 10/09/2018 15:16

You've had this dog for a few weeks.
Drop it off at daycare.
Discuss with the landlord about giving a reputable and insured dog walker a key. Or are you not actually supposed to have a dog at all?
Any decent breeder would take the dog back.
A rehoming centre would home check and ensure this dog's next home is a forever one.
Or you could stick it on Scumtree and hope it doesn't end up in a puppy mill or as dog fighting bait.

ADastardlyThing · 10/09/2018 15:25

I have some advice which if I may say so myself is excellent and will definitely help.

DO NOT SELL THE PUPPY it could end up being sold on again, bait dog, they might not be suitable etc

Speak to a rescue centre, there's a reason a lot of people moan about how hard it can be to get a rescue dog - they do very thorough checks and will take the dog back in if it doesn't work out. If you do genuinely care about the pup and are sorry for the situation then the only right thing to do is get it in a rescue. Anything else is just a last minute grab for a bit of cash and no thought for the dogs future, so the wrong thing. Very wrong.

That way you can tell your children with certainty that pup will be ok and have a decent chance at life.

:::Copied from the other thread:::

At least it sounds like it's not about the money which is a small positive. Therefore, it has to be back to the breeder if they weren't reputable or a rescue centre. That is the only way you will guarantee this little dog a decent chance at having a loving home. Face it, you will know absolutely zero about anyone you choose.

MauraIsles · 10/09/2018 17:13

I'm not sure what you've hoped to gain by starting multiple threads OP, it's obvious that what you are doing is very unfair - on your poor puppy! Doggy care may be expensive, but you've chosen to take on a pet, you should deal with the costs of having one, getting rid of said puppy because it's 'inconvenient' for you to keep her is disgraceful, you should have thought this through fully before you commited to owning a pet, and not getting rid the moment things became difficult. I echo other posters thoughts - don't get another pet!

IrmaFayLear · 10/09/2018 17:48

The more I read the OP, the worse it sounds. She is just a cheapskate, only looking at options that don't cost money. BorrowMyDoggy, indeed. A service that pairs people wanting to go for a walk with a dog with owners - for free (apart from small service charge). There are many, many reputable (and some not so reputable) dog walkers, but at £10/hr the OP is not having this.

Additionally I'd bet that the puppy is at peak puppydom, in other words a big pain in the arse at the moment, and if it isn't being trained, then possibly a nightmare. And 12-year-olds... Hmmm. "Pleeeeese can we get a dog, pleeeeeeese!!!" and then you don't see them for dust when the dog needs a walk/poo needs picking up/cute puppy turns into a rampant (bitey) teenager.

Ok, so the OP has to throw in the towel. But do the decent thing. Don't teach your child that animals are disposable, and that money overrides their welfare.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 10/09/2018 18:21

‘At least selling her I get to choose who she goes to...’

At least selling her I get to make money from her.

Fixed it for you.

My stance is still the same, whatever you do don’t ever get a dog ever again.

cheesefield · 10/09/2018 18:35

It's seriously shit to start a second thread because you didn't like the answers on the first.

Everyone on the first thread was right. Daycare or dog walker.

The only other reasonable thing to do is to return the poor thing to the breeder. As you were told by everyone on the other thread.

And don't get another pet.

DuchessofManchester · 10/09/2018 20:21

So you've started yet another thread about how sad you are hoping for sympathetic responses and lots of pats on the head.

You don't deserve to have any living creature to look after. People like you make me sick... you've thoughtlessly taken this puppy from its family for Instagram likes and can no longer be arsed with the actual looking after of it.
You selfish selfish bitch.

BigChocFrenzy · 10/09/2018 20:22

A rescue would make a much better choice of new owners than you could
They are professional about checking people out, at seeing warning signs

cheesefield · 10/09/2018 20:37

Why do you insist on selling her?

Why won't you take her to a good rescue centre that will vet potential new owners and rehome her properly?

Just because of the money?

Janus · 10/09/2018 21:06

You make absolutely no sense by saying selling her yourself you get to see who the dog goes to. are you going to do proper background checks like a dog shelter will do, get references, make home visits, get utility bills to check they live where they say they do? No, I do t suppose so.
I’m really trying not to rant at you in the hope you read this and take advice - give the dog to a proper rescue Home, a puppy will be snapped up but they will ensure it goes to a proper home not some terrifying person you bloody get from gumtree.

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bounty5 · 12/09/2018 23:25

DULPICATE MESSAGE: I just want to apologise for the distress that this post has caused. I read the replies in full today. I was shocked and sickened - especially since I felt I was putting her interests first, by giving her a better home (long hours alone, if it came to that, is sad). I don't know that many people in the doggy community and I genuinely did not realise that 'selling' was so offensive (I bought her in the first place, money was exchanged then?). As for gum tree, I am aware of puppy farms. I did research it, about the signs to look out for, the questions to ask... but I had not idea of the extent of it. Now I know! I WILL NOT BE GOING DOWN THAT ROUTE. My situation did change, as in I am a single parent now which has huge implications for the hours I must work and the ammount of people around to care for young pup. I'm hopeful about doggy care - I just thought that was for the super rich (which I am not by the way, as one person alluded to), but have been recommended a few indivdiuals who are being carefully vetted!

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