Obsession with peoples faults

[ILoveHumanity]

Hi all,

I just want to understand .. what is it that makes someone so obsessed with finding and pointing out people’s flaws ??

Like what’s the process that led them to become such a person? Since we are all born loving and innocent and all..

Is it some life trauma or what?

Sorry to be random I’m just very curious..

Im not here to rant. I’m just concerned about someone who is particularly obsessed to what seems to me to be mentally unhealthy level , with pointing out people’s flaws and finding out about it

Like genuinely there isn’t one person that crosses their path, which they don’t seem to over analyse them and scrutinise their behaviour and come up with ingenious ways to discover their hidden flaws

I find this disturbing but need to handle the situation

I too am intrigued about this. A fair few members of my family, mainly women, always comment on people’s looks, weight, intelligence, sex lifes etc. Mostly about strangers in the street or on the TV. I find it somewhat disturbing. I think it might be a way of making themselves feel better. Say if my DM has put on weight and she sees someone larger than her she’ll immediately say something like ‘god isn’t she big!’ Or ‘she really needs to eat less’. It’s just classic projection. My DM and exMIL also have a habit of calling all women sluts, whores etc. when they aren’t engaging in anything sexual. Could just be an advert with models in and they’d say ‘look at that blonde whore dressed in skimpy clothes’. I think it’s disgusting and I’m not sure how women expect to be treated better by men when they’re not different themselves. I see it a lot in men too. My OH is a music producer so often says nasty comments about other artists if they’re ‘doing better’ than him as it’s a very competitive business. I think it’s all down to jealousy, projection or just horrible personality traits

It's 100% from their own insecurity. I notice when I'm bothered about my own weight, for example, I'll consciously think about the weight of others and when I feel secure, I don't even think about it.

I'd never say anything nasty, though

I used to be a bit lot like this. Then I stopped drinking, and the tramadol mellowed me the rest of the way.