So Angry With DS

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I have calmed down slightly this morning but omg what is he doing??
Back story, DS, 21 had a girlfriend for 3 years from age 17,
She was nice enough, sweet and chatty and seemed to make him happy. She is 2 years younger.
In the last 18 months of their relationship she dumped him 3 times, and took him back. Except for the final time when she dumped him 2 days after his grandad died.
DS was devastated, I spent many a night sat on his bed comforting him as he cried for her! It took him months to start going out again and eventually he had a good social life with lots of mates etc. All good.
Now to last night, He went out to an old mates party and I find out at 2am this morning that the ex girlfriend is in his bed with him! (DH saw them come home)
I'm so angry with him! DH thinks I need to let him get on with it, but DH didn't sit and listen to him weeping for nights on end I don't want him hurt all over again.
He crept out with her this morning I assume to take her home.
What do I say to him??? I'm not sure I can control my anger

If this were my son i'm not sure i would be able to be polite to her op.

jenny I said I haven't told his siblings and I don't intend to.

Are you sure they're together? And it's not just a one night stand?

Ah sorry misread.

I liked her when they were together, but after her treating him the way she did I
was upset with her. I never saw her again after that day. I'm not sure how I will react if I'm faced with her again. Id like to think I will be civil and friendly, but how can i forget what she did?
Gremlins it may well be, time will tell. Still no word from DS

Gosh, when I read the thread title I thought he’d been arrested or something

So...after counting your blessings that he hasn’t, and appreciating, yes he’s a grown man etc. I don’t think there’s any harm in asking him in a neutral tone if they’re back together, and is he happy with that. Show you’re still there for him despite thinking he’s a nitwit but not showing your disapproval too openly

I personally think her dad was a little harsh saying he was angry with her for finishing with him after his bereavement. Was she supposed to stay with him out of pity or something?

kieran thats true, no use staying with him out of pity. Her timing sucked tho

Well, we've had a nice chat. I casually whilst making us a cuppa, asked if he was getting back with ex
He said that she was at the party and had noboby going her way to share a taxi, (it would have cost her £40) so he offered her to stay at ours as we lived much closer (£20 taxi)
Although we have a spare room, he said he slept on the floor of his room.
He said he's aware of what she did before, and I was to chill as he's not an idiot.
So, case closed, and lovely roast dinner on the way

Sounds like a sorted young man !

Hopefully jenny it's a minefield isn't it