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So Angry With DS

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Shopkinsarefab · 09/09/2018 10:13

I have calmed down slightly this morning but omg what is he doing??
Back story, DS, 21 had a girlfriend for 3 years from age 17,
She was nice enough, sweet and chatty and seemed to make him happy. She is 2 years younger.
In the last 18 months of their relationship she dumped him 3 times, and took him back. Except for the final time when she dumped him 2 days after his grandad died.
DS was devastated, I spent many a night sat on his bed comforting him as he cried for her! It took him months to start going out again and eventually he had a good social life with lots of mates etc. All good.
Now to last night, He went out to an old mates party and I find out at 2am this morning that the ex girlfriend is in his bed with him! (DH saw them come home)
I'm so angry with him! DH thinks I need to let him get on with it, but DH didn't sit and listen to him weeping for nights on endAngry I don't want him hurt all over again.
He crept out with her this morning I assume to take her home.
What do I say to him??? I'm not sure I can control my angerBlush

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JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 09/09/2018 13:34

If this were my son i'm not sure i would be able to be polite to her op. Angry

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Shopkinsarefab · 09/09/2018 13:44

jenny I said I haven't told his siblings and I don't intend to.

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SneakyGremlins · 09/09/2018 13:48

Are you sure they're together? And it's not just a one night stand?

JennyHolzersGhost · 09/09/2018 13:48

Ah sorry misread.

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Shopkinsarefab · 09/09/2018 13:58

I liked her when they were together, but after her treating him the way she did I
was upset with her. I never saw her again after that day. I'm not sure how I will react if I'm faced with her again. Id like to think I will be civil and friendly, but how can i forget what she did?
Gremlins it may well be, time will tell. Still no word from DS

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kierenthecommunity · 09/09/2018 14:10

Gosh, when I read the thread title I thought he’d been arrested or something Grin

So...after counting your blessings that he hasn’t, and appreciating, yes he’s a grown man etc. I don’t think there’s any harm in asking him in a neutral tone if they’re back together, and is he happy with that. Show you’re still there for him despite thinking he’s a nitwit Wink but not showing your disapproval too openly

I personally think her dad was a little harsh saying he was angry with her for finishing with him after his bereavement. Was she supposed to stay with him out of pity or something?

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Shopkinsarefab · 09/09/2018 14:28

kieran thats true, no use staying with him out of pity. Her timing sucked tho

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Shopkinsarefab · 09/09/2018 16:23

Well, we've had a nice chat. I casually whilst making us a cuppa, asked if he was getting back with ex
He said that she was at the party and had noboby going her way to share a taxi, (it would have cost her £40) so he offered her to stay at ours as we lived much closer (£20 taxi)
Although we have a spare room, he said he slept on the floor of his room.
He said he's aware of what she did before, and I was to chill as he's not an idiot.
So, case closed, and lovely roast dinner on the waySmile

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JennyHolzersGhost · 09/09/2018 17:30

Sounds like a sorted young man !

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Shopkinsarefab · 09/09/2018 19:49

Hopefully jenny it's a minefield isn't itGrin

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