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Feeling miserable

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Montague57 · 08/09/2018 17:17

Just that really.

I’ve been feeling down for a while. A few things I’m struggling with including a promotion I’m finding difficult to adjust to and living away from family and friends.

I moved to where I live now after university, to take a job in an industry related to my degree. I’ve worked at the same place for a few years and have been promoted a couple of times, however I haven’t been happy for a couple of years - I thought a promotion would help but it hasn’t and now I’m struggling with the role and workload. Aside from this I’m really missing home.

I live with my fiancé but don’t have friends where I live in and feel alone. To be honest, I probably haven’t made the effort to make friends but I’m naturally quite reserved, and I guess in big groups I can come across quiet or maybe a bit dull or boring. Over the last year or so I’ve started to feel really down, spent evenings/weekends crying, started to have what I assume are anxiety or panic attacks and have been teary at work. Something needs to change but I don’t know what to do. I’m worried that even if I move home or find a different job that I still won’t be happy.

I guess what I’m wanting out of this thread is advice on what to do and to know I’m not alone in feeling so lost in life...

OP posts:
LanguidLobster · 08/09/2018 17:27

Aw :(

Does your fiance come from the same home town? Is he settled where you are?

It sounds like you both need a good talk, can you go out tonight for a walk/ meal/drink?

Bubblemagic11 · 08/09/2018 17:35

Sorry to read you're feeling so down OP. Can you take some time/afford to go back home visit for a couple of days and get your thoughts together.
What's your manager like? Are they supportive, could you talk to them about your workload and any support you could access? Does work have a free counselling line you could call?

Don't struggle alone OP, try and find someone to talk to.

Montague57 · 08/09/2018 18:48

Sorry, not sure how to tag users in replies but appreciate the replies.

LanguidLobster- yes, we’re from the same town. My partner works in an industry where it would be very difficult to find a job back home, this is one of the reasons I feel conflicted about moving back to our home town. He’s away on a stag weekend at the moment so not able to chat to him about this now, however he knows how I feel as I haven’t hidden my feelings.

Bubblemagic11- I work somewhere where a heavy workload is the norm really. Past conversations have resulted in acknowledgment of the issue but a kinda ‘that’s how it is at the moment’ attitude, though workload never eases up. I’m not sure about a counselling line, that’s something I could look into.

OP posts:
Bubblemagic11 · 09/09/2018 22:43

hi @Montague57.

Just checking in on you, how are you feeling today?
Yes definitely ask what other support work may offer. If you feel worse maybe a chat with your GP. They might be able to signpost you somewhere useful.

All the best and take care of yourself x

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