My house has gone to shit. Help me.

[HarshingMyMellow]

I lost my mum a week ago (traumatic, sort of unexpected death - previous thread about it)
and the death has knocked me for 6.

My house has taken a nosedive with me; I've just been focusing on getting me and DD through the day.
I'm on diazepam at the moment so my energy levels are low, as well as the constant emotional rollercoaster/not being able to eat much/an hours sleep a night... I'm just exhausted. I haven't washed my hair since it happened.

But I need to start getting my house back in order; I don't think the state of it is doing my mental health any favours.

Have you got any quick cleaning tips? Things that'll make a difference but won't take me ages. I can't focus on tasks for too long at the minute.

Thanks in advance.

Sorry Harshing, you’re clearly going through an utterly shit time of it
I’d suggest 4 things which should be quick and easy to achieve and make things look much better instantly.

1. put a load of washing on
2. load the dishwasher (if you have one)
3. while those are running, get a bin bag and throw away everything you can see that needs binning
4. open some windows

Optional...
5) sweep kitchen/hoover floor
6) make a cuppa and chill out with your DD.

If you were my friend, I’d happily come and do all of the above for you

First and easiest job. Get a bin bag...go from room to room and pick up and put any rubbish in binbag. It won't take you more than 10 minutes.

Sorry about your mum

Sorry for your loss. I lost my mother a couple of years ago and I know the feeling. It can be hard to get motivated. I recently discovered the organised mum blog which is quite good for tips (although main regime is a bit hardcore for my liking!).

What has really helped me is paying to get the oven professionally cleaned, definitely worth every penny, and also, cleaning wipes to give the toilet and surfaces a quick wipe down which I can do when Dc’s are in the bath. I always chuck any toys left out into a toy box at the end of the day so that at least the downstairs isn’t cluttered.

I agree, baby steps. When I'm not feeling well, I watch a program or read a book and in the adverts or end of a chapter will go and do one tiny thing and then have an incentive to get it done so I can go back to TV or book.

Maybe start in the kitchen or bathroom and see how you go.

Just reading through that, I don't even know if it na

Sorry, toddler DD climbing all over me.

I didn't even know that post made sense, so thank you for your replies.

@CakeNinja unfortunately I have no friends like you

I have sorted the kitchen but I can't face anymore. I hate living in mess but the house feels so overwhelming at the minute.

I've done a load of washing, put a load in the tumble dryer and put another load on.
I've also swept and mopped the kitchen floor, loaded the dishwasher and cleaned the sides.
No where near enough, but it's a start.

Thank you for the organised Mum recommendation, I'll have a look at her site.
I need to start making some lists.

Didn't help that I found a Mother's Day card from DD to my mum.

Like a punch in the gut

You've done more than enough, for today. I'm so sorry about your mum.
Just relax now, and in the morning, have yourself a lovely shower/hair wash, take your time. Afterwards, if you do have a pack of antibacterial wipes, just clean round , freshen the toilet, washer on again, and relax.
In the afternoon, maybe a walk out, or a nice film.
Monday morning, strip the beds etc..
You'll get there Sweet.💐