my brother talks to me as though i am literally shit..

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well it was always a bit up and down. He hated me when we were growing up and would regularly batter my face, especially if I used long words or spoke too 'posh'.
I just kept going back for more, kind of hoping that one day he might like me.
Now he is really upper class and looks down his nose at me. Has done since his society wedding.
He thinks I am lazy and useless.
So I phoned him yesterday as I had some old family pix for him.
He wants to know if my son has been in trouble with the law, and what for. That is all he wants to know about him. He has met him oonce as an adult.
The first thing he says is 'so are you working' as though I never have, and I yes just some freelance stuff. He says well I will let you get on with your freelance .
When I speak to him I feel inadequate. Maybe his truth is accurate, that I am just a lazy useless piece of shit and no wonder nobody wants to know me.

His 'truth' is shit, just like his attitude. You're better than how he treats you, OP and don't deserve his horrendous behaviour

OP, try not to let him bring you down. He sounds like a hugely unpleasant person and obviously tries to belittle you to inflate his ego. Try not to give him any headspace, he doesn't deserve it.

he talks to me in this horrible exaggerated upper class accent.

our family is reasonably well spoken but nothing like that.

It is not my fault that our dad cannot bear him, he is not crazy about me either.

he didn't want the pix either, he said he would text me his address but then he didn't . In other words, fuck off.
I wanted to send him some art project that our mum did when she was young, but I guess he didn't want that either.
Just feel like such an idiot for thinking that one day he might talk to me as though I were a normal person.

I would go NC to be honest. Just because somebody is family doesn't mean you have to put up with them belittling you and knocking your confidence. He sounds horrible.

He sounds vile. Try Relate counselling - I've been going to them about my family estrangement for a few months now and I feel freer than I have my whole life.

Just because you share genetic material, it doesn't mean he automatically deserves a place in your life. You are an autonomous adult now and you get to choose. Life is short - do you really want to spend it jumping through his hoops and watching him look down his nose at you?

Have you ever called him out on it?

Why did he ‘batter your face’?

He sounds awful, I’d tell him why he is a dick and then go NC if it were me.

Some people can't help being obnoxious. I'm thinking in paticular of a cousin who was snotty and rude as an eleven year old, and never got any better. Best just to keep a wide berth...

He sounds awful. Stop trying and walk away

Just because you have the same parentage doesn’t give him the right to be vile
I’d lower contact right down
The less you have to do with him the better

You sound like decent person.and There’s nothing wrong with freelancing

And if he doesn’t want the pictures that’s his loss

I think your self esteem will increase a lot once he’s out of the picture

He sounds horrible.

I would try and just let it go if you can. Go no/low contact. See how you feel. He is unlikely to change very much unfortunately.

Don’t waste your energy on him.

Thank you for supportive comments x