Am I being totally unreasonable ?????

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Someone please help my sanity...
My husband and I have not been getting on well for sometime, but are taking steps to try to repair our marriage.
Last week, he told me we were invited to a local social event for a restaurant/bar opening which I was looking forward to - a fun evening out as a couple with lots of other people. Had a big chat about it all, talked about arranging babysitter etc. Then, a few nights ago he uninvited me. Said he was now going with his dad and his brother. Just like that, I was dropped!
Told me yesterday it was probably not going to be as fun as we thought as the event was ending at 9. He has just this moment walked through the door, pissed. Came upstairs to tell me about it, over 100 people there, giggling away like he’s had a whale of a time.
After the hellish 18 months or so we’ve had as a couple, this has really upset me. Am I being an over sensitive idiot?

No you are not. That was very very mean of him.

Errr no you’re not being unreasonable.
I would have made a huge deal out of this. Absolutely ridiculous that grown people can act this way.
I’m not saying to have an argument but I would let him know what he did was rude and disrespectful.
He needs to make up for this and make much more of an effort to save your relationship imo.

thank you, feeling very deflated and kinda hopeless at the state of our relationship right now

I think you should be concerned as to why he didn't want you there. Can you check if his father and brother actually went? If the bar has a FB page check any photos posted of the event.

What a twat. I would be giving him some serious silent treatment.
Sorry OP but YANBU, your husband was downright mean.

Yes I know for sure his father and brother were there. His sister was too. As were a couple of other people we know. As were the approz 100 of the population of the local area

I asked him why he didn’t rectify the situation by begging me to go (I say begging, but don’t mean literally - more like ‘I’m sorry, I really do want you to come with me’) and he said it’s because I’m cold towards him. Ummm, I’m cold towards you right now and have been last few days because you uninvited me!!!! However, I couldn’t talk to him about it because he was pretty drunk so I sent him to the spare room.

Well on the one hand that's positive, but on the other hand what a crappy way to treat your wife! I wonder what reason he gave everyone you know for you not being there?

If you had babysitters sorted then why didn't you just go with friends instead. His behaviour was unacceptable but he didn't make you stay at home.

Sounds like he’s told you where you stand in his pecking order of people he wants to spend time with. So sorry OP. In your shoes I’d be deciding I wouldn’t put up with it and wish him luck in his future life without me.

Your husband uninvited you??? How does that work? As quizqueen said if you had a baby sitter go with other people. I would uninvite him to be in my life.....

He was being cruel, not acceptable... he is trying to push your buttons ... I would have him explain what his real reasons are ... unless the man is just plain rude and cruel naturally ... ?

He’s an utter shit!

Gosh. He really didn't want you there, did he?

I would be really hurt by my husband actively not wanting me somewhere where loads of other people were going to be.

It's not even as if he'd've had to spend any of the time talking to you, what with all the other people there.

How bizarre.

I would've gone anyway and got pissed and embarrassed the twat. He's a wanker and you let him treat you like shit for not holding your ground and going. You had the babysitter booked. It wasn't a problem.

He sounds well mean to have uninvited you, a hurtful thing to do.

I wouldn't like him getting drunk either, he sounds very immature.

Ask him does he really want your marriage to work?