4 year olds bad behaviour... help plz

[WorriedMum890]

My PFB has started behaving really badly, throwing tantrums about anything and everything and saying or screaming no when asked to do or not to do something.
This has now got to a stage where she is posing a danger to her newborn brother. The bad behaviour has been ongoing way before he was on the scene and she loves him to bits so it's not entirely jealousy.

She has now started hitting, and will not apologise without laughing.
It's driving me mad, I feel like I'm failing her.
I try to remain calm and not shout but it does get to that sometimes.

Doesn't help we've been stuck in the house whilst I attempt to breastfeed. Which is made near on impossible when she starts throwing toys/hitting.

I don't feel like this is normal. She's 4. When did she get so determined to do everything possible to be naughty?!

You describe bad behaviour but not the measures you take to prevent it and stop it once it starts. You need a clear consequence every time. It could also be partly because of the new baby. A complete upheaval of her world.

If you're on Facebook look for the Therapeutic Parenting group and ask in there. Some good advice to be had

Sounds to be a lot of frustration - is she starting school soon? That coupled with a new brother and spending a lot of time cooped up leads to a lot of frustration

My 4year old has been pretty vile all summer; shouting, demanding, rude, hitting her sister, cheeky...

I've put it down to being a 'phase' associated with starting school. Although she's been very positive and excited about school, there must be some underlying apprehension too. Plus, I don't think she was being stretched enough at preschool.

I've ignored a lot of it and disciplined the really bad bits.

How old a 4 year old is yours?

A 4 year old and new born must be hard! Mine were very close, so the oldest was oblivious to the youngest at times. I did get out a lot though - play centres, playgroups etc. The eldest being entertained was priority, and the baby just had to slot in.