How can you improve your relationship with a family member who has been says inappropriate comments by is otherwise okish?

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I love my sis. However, she doesn't really think very highly of me. She pretty much says something snide to me almost every other time I see her. Shes ok most of the time though but lately I don't know but I am just getting really irritated by her comments. They're hurtful and I think it's just becoming s habit. She doesn't say it on jest. She actually does mean what she says too.

It's making me not want to spend as much time with her and I have found myself not calling her as often / visiting.

Should I just accept it and continue to see her or carry on as I am which will inevitably affect our relationship in the long term (ie drift further apart?)?

What do you say when she makes the comments?

For me, I would respond to / challenge each one as they're said. It will highlight that you're unhappy with them and make it obvious exactly how often she's doing it.

Hmm. That's the thing. I really just ignore it. It probably isn't helping that I do that as that I guess is saying to her that's ok for her to say it. If I have ever ( which is hardly ever!) challenged it ,she usually laughs it off and says I'm being silly/sensitive. I can't win!