Ds has just turned 5. Since he was a baby, he has always been a handful. He's getting worse and I'm struggling to cope with him. I have an older child who is so good and it's affecting her and just family life in general.
He has these horrific tantrums that last for over an hour where he is letting out screams, hitting me and throwing things. Banging on the floor and walls. These tantrums can be over something as little as giving him the wrong cup. Once he passes the point of no return you can't get through to him and just have to wait it out.
He just makes things so difficult. Getting ready for school ans work in the morning is so hard because I never know what's going to set him off. I have to allow half an hour for him to get dressed in case he decides I've given him the wrong pair of socks or whatever and have to do what I can to avoid a huge meltdown. As a melt down will mean I have to half carry half drag him to school kicking and screaming. Making us all late.
These are just a few examples of how difficult he makes life. I feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells around him.
He bites, hits, kicks ans pinches his sister. He hurts a child at school probably monthly.
The school admit he is challenging but say he is within the normal range. I've been into school quite a few times but I get the impression they think I'm overacting. They have said that he is very stubborn and they can sometimes struggle to get him to sit down and do an activity until he decides he wants to do it. They said they didn't think he is ready for year 1.
They did say they thought his speech was a problem but the salt said he was fine ans discharged him. He still drools like a baby and has been referred to ENT but still waiting for an appointment.
He struggles academically and is 'emerging' for everything Apart from his physical development.
Sometimes when he gets over excited eg playfighting with the dogs, I struggle to get through to him it's like he can't hear me? Like in a trance or something. I know that sounds a bit weird but I don't really know how to explain it.
Sorry I don't really know what I'm asking but I'm really struggling to cope with him. I'm super strick with him and never give in which is what causes a lot of the tantrums. He's basically had all of his toys taken away from him but he doesnt care. I don't know what to do.