Contraception

[ReasonableLlama]

I've been thinking about changing contraception and was wondering if anyone had any ideas what might be best for me. I'm due to meet my doctor next week to discuss post baby contraception.

Background: DH and I have used condoms for 7 years. Have had 2 instances of MAP, and a planned pregnancy after 2 times of unprotected sex (much to our surprise as I have PCOS).

Am I right in thinking the coil is only for women who have given birth vaginally?

How important is it to take the pill on time? I always forget to take any medication as I work shifts and don't have a standard day

I understand/think the implant lasts for 3 years. What if want a baby in 2 years?

Am I missing any other form of contraception? You would think after 35 years I'd know what's what but I've pretty much always used condoms.

I don't wanna "bump" but I have to
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Coil is for literally anyone. I highly recommend the copper coil. Minimal side effects for me, no fuss and long lasting. Also I first got it as a virgin, so really fine if you haven’t given birth

In regards to th implant, it lasts 3 years and you can have it removed any time and I believe your fertility goes straight back to normal

I spoke to DH and he's keen to use condoms

Before DS came along I was happy to risk it. Now he's here I don't want any more so I'm more vigilant about it.

Is it worth having the coil AND using condoms?

Copper coil I think is the most efficient method of contraception bar abstinence I think, something ridiculous like 99.99% effective. So you could but it’s hardly worth it. Condoms alone are something like 98% effective when used absolutely perfectly

I'm about to get a Mirena coil and I've never delivered vaginally. It's still possible to get it.

Combined pill you can be off by a few hours or even a day. Minipill if you're off by more than a few hours it's not effective. So don't do the minipill if you can't keep to a schedule.

DH said he prefers condoms. He keeps flushing them down the toilet

The mirena is more effective than the copper coil...i had one pre babies and it was great. Over 99% effective so no need for condoms. They last for 5 years but you can get them pulled out earlier if you want to TTC. Having done shift work and pills, it is tricky...I often used to forget or have gaps which were too long.

Good grief, don't flush condoms down the toilet !

Why is your DH flushing condoms down the toilet? Do you want to have problems with your septic tank?

Why is the condom flushing relevant to the post? (It is disgusting practice) is this a made up thread where someone is meant to ask if he is actually even using condoms? Get a coil. It is a complete non issue. It is your body, not his.

I had a Mirena, and then later a copper coil, before I'd had children. I had it removed a week before my wedding and used condoms to cover potentially fertile days until the wedding day. My next period never came - I got pregnant as soon as we stopped using the condoms. The great thing about the coil is that, when you remove it, fertility returns to normal very quickly. It can be slightly sore when it's inserted, but then you're covered for 5 years. It's a great form of contraception.

Equally, if you have the implant then later decide TTC, you can get it removed at any point and fertility will return quickly.

The only thing I wouldn't recommend is the injection, as it can take a year for fertility to return (though it can happen much sooner).

I also work shifts and so didn't take the pill at exactly the same time each day, because I wasn't going to get up at 6am when I wasn't working early to do so. It still worked, but I am not saying that will definitely be the case for everyone.
I had a coil fitted recently. I was asked quite a lot of questions beforehand but I wasn't asked if I had given birth vaginally. You can have one whether you have had children or not. Having it fitted wasn't great, it was a bit painful, but it didn't take ages and that is over now for 10 years.

The reason flushing condoms is relevant is because I hate it.

I've asked him time and time again to put them in the bin. How can I stop him?

I spoke to him and he prefers to use condoms but it fucks me off that he flushes them.

I've told him not to flush them but he will still do it.

Apart from refusing sex, how can I stop him flushing? (This is the main reason for changing contraception)

I had the coil at 16. I'm on my 2nd one now and I highly recommend them. They're aren't the most comfortable to be fitted but they're so great for the 5 years they last and you don't have to worry contraception at all.