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Original poster

Is this little boy racist?

59 replies

mydogishot · 04/09/2018 21:53

My friend was looking after her neighbours son whilst she had appt.
My friend was to drop the boy to nursery and his mum would collect him afterwards.
We were going out after so I walked to nursery with them, I do know boy and he knows me!
When we got there a lady in full face veil was dropping her child.

Boy pointed at her, started laughing and calling her bad.

I was shocked, knee down to ask him why he said that. He shrugged and said it's true, that's why her face is covered.

He is 4 (nearly 5).

We live in London (so very multicultural).

Should my friend talk to his mum?
I'm worried she'll find out something she doesn't want to know!?

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PickAChew · 04/09/2018 23:12

4 year old boy is just confused and needs an explanation more helpful than the vile drivel spouted by windows

Kids notice people who are different from their usual experience.

yesornoworld · 04/09/2018 23:16

Lol we call it the ninja outfit in our home. It is like a loose ninja outfit after all.

Grasslands · 04/09/2018 23:18

the child is four!!! yes they say stupid things and i agree in his cartoon world he's probably referring to something totally unrelated to race/culture/religion/ etc. whatever calling a person a baddie is.

NellMangel · 04/09/2018 23:19

No not racist. Just being a child.

Original poster
mydogishot · 05/09/2018 20:22

Update if anyone is interested.

He is being raised with racist views.

His mum just shrugged and said "well when they dress like that and bomb places, they don't deserve a smile"

Poor little boy.

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CatchingACold · 05/09/2018 20:26

Did he think that it was a ninja or a bank robber?

amusedbush · 05/09/2018 20:26

Fucking hell! Shock

Poor little boy has no chance with disgusting parents spouting that sort of shit.

Deadringer · 05/09/2018 20:31

Don't kids just say weird stuff sometimes? When my youngest dd started playschool there was an Indian girl in her class. DD came home and said she didn't like black people. She said it several times and I was terrified people would think she had picked it up at home. I talked to her about it and she eventually stopped saying it.

amusedbush · 05/09/2018 20:46

@Deadringer

Have you read the update?

Fettuccinecarbonara · 05/09/2018 20:50

Can you report it to the nursery? They are trained in how to deal with radicalisation of children.

Deadringer · 05/09/2018 20:52

Must have missed it. That's crazy

hmmwhatatodo · 05/09/2018 20:53

How did you or your friend react to what she said Op? If that comment had been made at school either by the mum or the boy it would be recorded. Might be worth reporting to the nursery. Have a look into Prevent too for advice.

rocketpocket · 05/09/2018 20:53

He's four. Either it's something learnt from the parents or he thinks she looks like a burglar or something from a cartoon.

gamerwidow · 05/09/2018 20:59

I don’t think 4 year olds can be racist. They might parrot things they have heard or say silly things because they see something different that they don’t understand but I don’t think they view other races as inferior or with hate.
My DD saw a man in Islamic dress on his way to the mosque and laughed and asked why was he in his PJs. I quickly corrected her and explained that people sometimes wear different clothes to us and it was their choice, perfectly normal and nothing to comment on. She isn’t racist she just didn’t understand but now she does.

TheActualLastJedi · 05/09/2018 21:02

Oh dear how awful for the child to be taught such vitriol! Well he's destined to be a member of the national front then isn't he...

Original poster
mydogishot · 05/09/2018 21:05

My friend told her that she shouldn't be raising him to have such disgusting views but she just laughed and slammed the door.
Nursery workers heard him do what he did and what I said to him.

All I can hope is what I said to him went in.

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SuperGlowBug · 05/09/2018 21:11

Oh dear how awful for the child to be taught such vitriol! Well he's destined to be a member of the national front then isn't he...

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hmmwhatatodo · 05/09/2018 21:16

I imagine the nursery will have recorded it then. I guess your friend won’t be helping her neighbour so much now.

Weird comment LastJedi.

TheBeatGoesOnandOn · 05/09/2018 21:24

It sounds like he meant she was covering her face as she had done something bad like if we are ashamed?

Still needs to be explained in an age appropriate way that some people choose to dress in a different way than we are used to and that's okay.

TheBeatGoesOnandOn · 05/09/2018 21:28

Pardon just read update.

I hope the parents get taken into school because of this. What ignorant bastards.

TheActualLastJedi · 05/09/2018 21:33

@hmmm you do know what/who the national front are don't you? They are a fascist political party right here in the UK.

Poor MIL who is a wonderful Jamaican lady, had to raise her son's with her house constantly being graffitied on by the national front, people who I've had the displeasure of meeting from the national front and similar groups basically always say shit like "this is how I was raised".

Rebecca36 · 05/09/2018 21:39

He is too little to be a racist or any kind of bigot, he has just picked up what he's heard adults say and it is a damn shame.

hmmwhatatodo · 05/09/2018 23:55

Yes I know all the NF LastJedi, I just don’t get your comment. I read it as sarcastic, as in, oh wow, so he heard one bad thing and now he’s definitely joining an extremist right wing group when he’s older because of it. Sorry if I’ve misunderstood.

hmmwhatatodo · 05/09/2018 23:55

Ok, I don’t know all the NF personally, I meant I know all about them!

birthdayboo · 06/09/2018 00:02

How sad for the poor boy. I would phone the school/nursery and make them aware as this I think can fall under the non radicalisation program remit. Forgot what it's called, sorry

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