I had a uterine rupture during VBAC. I was rushed through for a crash section and came round 3 hours later with a baby girl in the crib next to me.
DD had a cut from the scalpel on her back, but otherwise fine. No lasting damage. She is nearly 7. I took much longer to recover, about 9 weeks of not being able to stand up straight properly, slow shuffling walking etc) and needed a lot of support in the first month or so after DD was born. Largrjy because I also had 3 yo DS to deal with!
I ruptured because I dilated very quickly, 0-10 cm in about 2 hrs. I had argued fir a mobile labour, but we’d compromised in 20 mins monitoring an hour. Thank goidbsss DD’s heart rate flatlined when I was hooked up ! So I would recommend monitoring.
The labour itself was excruciating, it felt one big long contraction, with no let up. The MW kept trying to fob me off with paracetamol, and only took me seriously when I had to crawl to the toilet, and then there was blood everywhere when I went for a wee. I lost 500 ml blood. I needed some minor surgery a few days later too. Dd and I were in hospital 5 days.
So that is my tale of woe, even though it has a happy ending. Dd is 7 next month, super sporty and great at school). I’m nit suggesting that all VBAC eve like this, just saying that occassionally they do. My hospital were on the case and all went well (they put a precautionary cannula in my have the second things looked like they might be going wrong). My hospital really pushed VBAC, and I like the idea of quicker recovery, cuddles with DC1 etc, but in retrospect, maybe my medical history should have advised against it, as I dilated very quickly with dc1 aswell.
By contrast, I had no pain relief when dc1 had been born 3 years earlier. I was ready to go home on day 3, walked 5 miles after 2 weeks, was driving at 4 weeks, swimming at 6 and running at 11. He was emcs due to undiagnosed tootling breech, but the birth and recovery were very straightforward.
Good luck, whatever you choose.