Decipher this teen-text for me please

[WoodforTrees]

I accidentally just read a message between DD(13) and her friend. She had used my phone to check her instagram and so when I saw I had a message, I clicked on the red icon, only to discover that I was logged in as her, so the messages were hers IYSWIM

I am slightly freaking out even though I am pretty relaxed about most things.

For context, DD is just going into year 9 but is quite mature (physically/mentally and emotionally) for her age and i am mindful that she looks and acts much older than her age in some aspects.

We were camping over the summer and she met a boy who is 14 (going into year 10) who lives quite far from us but in the last two weeks, he has got several trains to come and visit her at our house on three occasions (I have been in).

The last time he was here, DS and his friends were playing loudly in the living room, so I said they could watch Netflix in her room as long as they left the door open. I popped up several times with drinks and to check on them Everything seemed to be ok and although DD was a bit flustered by my constant appearances I just assumed she was embarrassed by my obvious vigilance. Door stayed open.

Texts I have just read describe the fact that they 'got off' and then when her friends does lots of OMGs and 'Tell Me Everything' DD replies they 'got off quite a lot'.

She then talks about little kisses and cuddles

She then says he has told her he loves her.

If it's little kisses and cuddles, I'm a bit sad - I think she is too young - but not devastated. But this doesn't match with 'got off a lot' in my world (In my day that would have meant full on snogging and groping).

I am also not sure about the 'I love you bit'. Really?

DH says at his age he would sadly have said anything to get a girl to snog him.

Do I assume the worst or the best? Do I tell her I accidentally saw her texts?

Teenagers do do this, you have to face that. Your little girl is growing up. Just keep communication open with her, tell her everything she needs to know about consent and peer pressure.

yeah Got off a lot just m,eans LOADS of snogging nothing untoward :)

Just for contrast, "getting off" in the US is having an orgasm.

My DD is 16. I feel your pain.

also love is a very transient thing at that age I wouldn't read to much into what the boy has said. It all sounds very normal and the same as when I was year 9-10.

I'd leave it.

When I was 13 and used to write in my diary showing my age every thing was exaggerated so it could be a case that she was exaggerating details to her friend. I'd be mortified if my mum brought anything up.

please leave it. This is pretty normal. I take it shes 13? Its quite sweet really that hes said he loves her... I wouldnt worry too much about it seeing as hes all that way away! Its just the type of thing that happens at that age. You say you were snogging at that age... so was I... so were most girls I imagine!!
Did you not have a good experience of it yourself? Is that why you are sad?
I have lovely sweet memories of 'getting off with' my boyfriend at that age lol Its not doom and gloom its just a normal and healthy part of growing up. You seem to be doing everything right by keeping an eye on it, and she doesnt seem upset about anything so id just keep out of it to be honest!

Leave her be!!
Let her snog!!!
I would feel a bit old when this happens to my son 😳😳 but he will probably be doing it when he is 12-13 like I was.

Ahhh puppy love

OK, I feel much better now. Thank you MN.

I will leave it and not tell her i saw the message - she would only get defensive and feel embarrassed - nothing to be gained. He's nice enough but I doubt they'll be tying the knot any time so I'll try not to over think it grin

I think I wanted reassurance that the 'A lot' didn't mean anything else and that it was par for the course at 13. Seems it is.

Oh to be 14.

No idea what happened to that weird grin that turned into a hyperlink??