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Rant about fussy eaters / awkward family.

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PolkerrisBeach · 04/09/2018 08:14

My parents are celebrating their golden wedding shortly and so we've arranged to go out as a family for a nice meal. Parents, me, DH and our teenage kids, my brother, his wife and their two older kids who are in their 20s, We all agreed MONTHS ago on the venue. Venue has a private dining room which they're giving us at no additional cost and it does fairly standard gastro-pub fare. Nothing too challenging.

SIL is incredibly picky. No allergies, no intolerances, just exists on a diet of beige freezer food. Her kids are the same. The venue asked if we would choose our menu options ahead of time as it they were very full on the evening we'd booked and it'd help them considerably. No problem.

Forwarded the menu to SIL. Reply - "niece has decided she's a pescatarian and won't eat anything fried so can she have a tuna salad" Well no, because that's not an option. There's a vegetarian dish but that's not to her taste. There is a salmon en croute but she won't have that because she doesn't like pastry. Then next reply - could Nephew have a burger? Again no, that's not an option. Well he'll have the chicken pie then, but only if there's no mushrooms in it because he doesn't like them. SIL isn't sure whether she'll like the steak, it might be "cooked funny". Brother is not getting involved - he's so laid back he's horizontal and just nods and mmmms to keep the peace.

In contrast, asked my own teenagers to choose and they all picked within two minutes.

Seriously considering cancelling the whole thing. SIL has decided she'll now call the restaurant herself. Probably to ask whether they'll do her chicken nuggets and freezer chips.

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cheesefield · 04/09/2018 08:29

People like that drive me insane.

TillyVonMilly · 04/09/2018 08:33

Too many mushrooms in a mushroom soup, is one that always sticks in my mind Hmm

LeftRightCentre · 04/09/2018 08:37

Tell her to call the restaurant and sort it all out herself. Don't even get involved. Leave 'em to it.

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Aprilshowersnowastorm · 04/09/2018 08:39

Is there a chippy nearby? Suggest her + her dc get some chips, stand outside the restaurant and you can wave to them through the window!

xyzandabc · 04/09/2018 08:44

Have the salmon en croute, just leave the pastry.

Have the chicken pie and pick the mushrooms out, if there are any.

ShatnersWig · 04/09/2018 08:48

I want to see the entire options they have to choose from to ascertain just how unreasonable they are please!

Cousinit · 04/09/2018 08:51

Grrrr...I can't stand fussy eaters. I agree that you should leave them to it. Not your problem.

PolkerrisBeach · 04/09/2018 11:38

Main courses apart from the stuff mentioned above:

Pan fried chicken breast with mashed potato and veg
Market fish of the day
Fried halloumi
Chicken risotto
Lamb shank in a redcurrant sauce
Spicy sausages and mustard mash

It's hardly "gourmet" food with foams, and veloutes and smears of this, that and the next thing. It's standard, hearty pub grub food.

SIL can call the restaurant and show herself up as having the palate of a toddler if she likes, no skin off my nose. I'm having the halloumi and won't sit next to her as she'll be grimacing and turning her nose up at it.

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HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 04/09/2018 11:45

I hate people like that. It is fine if you are fussy but you have NO RIGHT to start demanding people change the menu unless it is for specific dietary requirements. There is a ton of choice from what you have listed and I would not be engaging any further.

Her 2 options would be to ring the restaurant herself or excuse her family from the meal entirely, its just such terrible manners to act so self important.

BluthsFrozenBananas · 04/09/2018 11:58

The problem isn’t that they’re fussy eaters, it’s that they’re making their restrictive diet everyone else’s problem to solve. My late grandad was a very fussy eater, he’d ring ahead and ask the restaurant if they could do him a cheese omelet and chips, one of the very few meals he’d eat. As far as I know places were happy to oblige him, he knew it was his problem to deal with, was actually quite embarrassed by it and would have hated anyone to be put out because of him.

Grimacing and turning up your nose at other people’s food is just incredibly rude.

ShatnersWig · 04/09/2018 12:09

I'm a fussy eater but even I like four things that are on offer!

SnuggyBuggy · 04/09/2018 12:19

Tell them to bring their own food.

sexnotgender · 04/09/2018 12:22

I’m also relatively fussy and I’d have no problem with the choices there!

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 04/09/2018 12:35

Tell them to bring their own food.

They cant do that it's a business not a relatives house, no matter how fussy you cannot just bring your own meal to a place which serves food. Shock

formerbabe · 04/09/2018 12:41

Can't bear fussy eaters. It always makes me laugh when people are picky because they're never fussy in the sense that they want to eat quality food, they just prefer crap normally. It's people who'd choose nuggets and oven chips whilst turning their noses up at Michelin star food!

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