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Is anyone else dreading the back to school

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Harleyisme · 03/09/2018 17:24

Everyone I know can't wait for their children to go back to school. I am absoulety dreading it. I have 3 boys 2 with sn both struggle with school and we end up with anxious, frustrated and tired children. Term time for us is just a mass of meltdowns and stress. I have loved the last 6 week's they have been no anxiety and way calmer than they will be in term time. Hardest part is getting professionals and teachers to see it my boys are good at holding it together and letting rip once all which then makes people think it's us.

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Pauperlil · 04/09/2018 00:02

I'm dreading it , hate school mums for one and the rest

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Harleyisme · 04/09/2018 06:35

I am similar. I don't tend to know anyone as I have to much to deal with trying to calmer get my children in school without them melting down.

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Gohackyourself · 04/09/2018 07:15

I’m dreading it but in a different way. My commute an general travelling is a breeze without school traffic both ends! That traffic causes me to have mega problems around an hr later trying to get home to my children from school!.
It’s actually me that gets frazzled trying to drop off on way to work and get home , just like everyone else!

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grasspigeons · 04/09/2018 07:20

I'm dreading the tired, anxiety, stressed meltdowns of my child who is being investigated for SN. The last six weeks have been so peaceful in comparison.

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 04/09/2018 07:27

Dread here too, though I’ll admit it’s mixed with relief. This has been a long, hard holiday and I’ve had terrible morning sickness to contend with too. My ds starts a new school tomorrow, a special ASD unit, and it’s a taxi ride away. Dreading all that could go wrong. I thought after a year fighting to get him specialist provision, getting the placement would be the hard part. I’m worried the challenges have only just begun. Younger ds has been really hard work this summer so it’ll be a relief to wave him off the day after, and be able to come home and just breathe.

Juanbablo · 04/09/2018 07:33

I have mixed feelings. My baby is starting school so I'm pretty sad about that. But he is very excited. My others need the routine and although ds1 says he's not looking forward to going back I think really he is. I will miss them all but I do need a break now!

5000KallaxHoles · 04/09/2018 07:43

They're ready to go back - I'm dreading it in case the school drops the ball on DD2's SN provision (teacher didn't inspire confidence before the holiday breakup). Also has been really pleasant not seeing the school gate queen bee and her child who is pretty damned awful to my daughter for 6 weeks if I'm honest.

therealimposter · 04/09/2018 07:44

Yes. I loved the summer. Back tomorrow and I start a new job on the same day

BowieCat · 04/09/2018 07:45

I am dreading it too. I have a sad little 8yo DS at the breakfast table looking like the world is about to end. He's so fed up at having to go back. He also potential has some form of ASD and teachers generally don't get him. He hates it. Summer has been hard with juggling work and childcare but his confidence has been high and he's been showing real signs of improvement. Then school comes along and it feels like nothing has changed.

Thinkingofausername1 · 04/09/2018 09:17

I'm nervous for my dd going up to high school. I had a terrible time and I hope she stands her ground if she gets any trouble. I won't miss the school run though too many cliques!

KateGrey · 04/09/2018 09:19

Two with Sen going back. One going in a taxi to a new Sen school (I’m freaking out). The older of the two is going back to a school I’ve lost confidence in (due to horrific experiences with youngest who was there last year). I’ve got a huge knot in my stomach.

NewDirectionNeeded · 04/09/2018 09:31

Yep. I didn't sleep a wink last night, worrying about how my DD will cope moving up to high school. She likely has ASD and really struggles with communication and forming friendships. I'm just so nervous for her. She's been really positive though and just says that she's looking forward to learning new things, but I don't think she realises how tough it can be. The difference between primary and high school is huge and I think most schools have a 'throw you in at the deep end' approach, which won't work for everyone.

My anxiety is off the scale today. I have to give her so much more freedom too, which is unsettling when she's not exactly street wise. I don't have a choice though.

Retreatbynameretreatbynature · 04/09/2018 09:44

It’s awful. I have two DCs with SN and I’ve loved having the 6 week respite from the stresses of education. One DC starts a new special school today which we’re both so worried about. I think it will either be a wonderful, new start or will simply add to our problems. My other DC has ASD and is home schooled but this still causes them anxiety and it feels so stressful when my DC is scared of their own shadow almost.

Aprilshowersnowastorm · 04/09/2018 09:46

Just ironed 15 shirts.
4 skirts.
6 pairs of trousers.
10 polo tops.
4 jumpers.
Can't bloody wait!!

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Harleyisme · 04/09/2018 09:48

We have a home visit today with ds2 teacher where they want to discuss making him sit on the toilet so many times a day. This isn't good for him he comes home anxious when people do this to him. But they don't car about him it's all about what they able to do support wise and the fact it's difficult for them to change him. Not the fact my ds has no idea when he needs to use a toilet and seems to have no control. If he has no nappy on he will start weeing then squeeze his penis to stop it then scream and run to toilet. When he has clothes on and no nappy he doesn't notice till his clothes are wet though and he can feel it. He also never notices he's had a poo. When you change his nappy he will ask you have I wee'd or pooped he really doesn't know xxx

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wrapsuperstar · 04/09/2018 09:56

I feel rather crap. Eldest (DD6) went back today and whilst she doesn’t struggle with school (and on the academic side is extremely able), she seems so much happier at home. It’s hard work having both kids off all the time but generally I love it.
DD4 is starting school at the end of the week. She is a summer born child, still very much a preschooler and I very nearly delayed her starting entirely. Dreading it, still not sure I have made the right decision but we have to make the best of it...

Oh Harleyisme, it doesn’t sound like school is doing the best job with supporting your DS. Have you got a Health Visitor or GP who can advocate for you at all? Best of luck with the home visit.

RiverTam · 04/09/2018 10:01

I’m not dreading DD going back to school but I am sad the holidays are ending, we’ve had a lovely time and it could well be the last summer we get to spend together as I’m now applying for full time jobs. So feeling rather melancholic about that.

for all of those who’s DC find school hard.

Thesearmsofmine · 04/09/2018 10:04

OP have you looked into home ed for your children? I know it isn’t for everyone for many reasons but just thought I would put it out there as an option if school isn’t working for them.

I hope everyone’s back to school goes smoothly.

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Harleyisme · 04/09/2018 10:05

Wrapsuperstar the gp and health visitor both have sent letters to the school backing me up the school don't care they don't have the staff to do it. I don't believe this is the right fit of school for him but have no choice can't even get him an EHCP. Feel useless with the whole situation at the moment.

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Harleyisme · 04/09/2018 10:06

I have looked in to home education. My dh isn't keen I said I would give school a try and if ds Is really suffering I would pull him out and home educate him.

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confusedofengland · 04/09/2018 10:07

Mine start back on Thursday, mixed feelings here.

Excited for the DC as they all can't wait to go. DS3 is finally starting school, so is excited to be like his brothers. DS2 (ASC) is excited about starting Junior School, mainly because they have hand driers in the toilets, but I hope he won't struggle too much with the work. DS1 is excited about starting Year 5 but is a perfectionist & is desperate to get into grammar school (then Oxbridge, the boy is nothing if not ambitious) so I think this year will mean a lot of hard work.

I am, however, rather scared/nervous for me. I've been at home with DC for 9 years 10 months & now I feel like I'm losing a huge part of my identity. I'm scared I'm going to be lonely & insignificant. I have plans for a business I want to set up, but I have some work to do before I can get to that point. I have plenty to do in the meantime, including paid work for my parents' business at their house, when I can, but I'm finding this whole time very scary!

Elflocks · 04/09/2018 16:09

for everyone on this thread.

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