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Rachael Bland has days to live...

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CaveMum · 03/09/2018 15:55

Her tweet just an hour ago is heartbreaking. She has been so vocal about her cancer battle and inspirational in the way she has faced her diagnosis.

My love and thoughts go out to her young family and friends.

Rachael Bland has days to live...
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HolyMountain · 03/09/2018 16:07

I saw that, very sad news for her family and friends.

Yogagirl123 · 03/09/2018 16:15

Very sad news, my thoughts are with her and her family and friends. I hope they have the privacy they need at this heartbreaking time. How many more people will we lose to this terrible disease? It’s touches far too many.

Babbas · 03/09/2018 22:35

Very very sad news. Heart breaking.

I'm disgusted that so many Instagrammers are using this to boost followers. It's all over Insta today and I'm sick of seeing people filming themselves crying and uploading it to stories. One particularly vile story has an Insta mum sat in a bath naked filming herself crying. This is not a bandwagon. I know Rachel in real life and she really is such a loss to the world.

Freetodowhatiwant · 03/09/2018 22:38

Yes I’ve been really sad about this today too. She’s been so brave and it’s awful that her little boy will lose his mummy. I’ve been in hospital for the last couple of days and was reallly worried when a sonographer clearly found something on a scan. I had to go back three times and I kept thinking of Rachael and other people going through that (this was actually yesterday, so before today’s news about her). Thankfully it turned out to be appendicitis rather than something more sinister but I can’t stop thinking about poor Rachael. I haven’t managed to listen to her podcast yet but I hope she’s found some peace with it all.

Awful about the instgrammers and crying naked in the bath!

EnidButton · 03/09/2018 22:47

I think a lot of people think cancer is like the films. Someone is given 6 months to live, they are sad but brave and spend the months running marathons and saying poignant goodbyes whilst watching sunsets. The reality is people can go from seemingly fine to gone in 2 weeks flat or from thinking they have months left to being given a week. It's a brutal, violent, nasty disease and my heart is with her family and with her. She's experiencing something most of us can't ever imagine. There really aren't enough words. I hope the love she's spent her life creating will hold her close and help her through the end.

EnidButton · 03/09/2018 22:49

I missed my point...I think cancer is often romanticised and sanitised basically and that's what the insta mums are doing. It's disgusting if they're using it for that.

Haworthia · 03/09/2018 22:50

Heartbroken for her and her little boy.

Cleanmean · 03/09/2018 22:55

Can't stop thinking of her. What an awful situation.

Insta is all about the next big bandwagon. I just can't fathom how anyone could sit in a bath and cry for someone they don't know and then decide to get their phone out and film themselves! It's almost like a competition on Insta.... who is the most sad. The most affected. Sympathy porn. It's ugly and distasteful and the aim is to show themselves as compassionate and empathetic. Disgusting behaviour to capitalise on such a sad sad story.

awishes · 03/09/2018 23:11

Heartbreaking, sadly happening to so many people as we comment. Particularly poignant for a young Mum to be facing this.

paddlingwhenIshouldbeworking · 03/09/2018 23:24

Her message was devastating in its simplicity. You just wanted to reach into the message and make it all stop for her but there's nothing you can do but read.

formerbabe · 03/09/2018 23:31

That message is so heart breaking to read.

Wittow · 04/09/2018 20:29

I saw it on twitter. I feel gut wrenchingly sad about it and for her family. My mum was told in April that she had 'days, maybe weeks' to live (she had cancer, aged 68) and that was bad enough, but this is really heartbreaking. Makes you wonder what sort of god there is who sanctions all this. Dreadful.

ChipsNotDaddy · 05/09/2018 11:37

Such awful news today. I have been following her podcasts and she was so brave.

What a loss to the world

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CaveMum · 05/09/2018 11:44

So sad to hear she has gone, as a mother to young children my heartbreaks for how she must have felt knowing she’d never see her son grow up.

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Mrbatmun · 05/09/2018 11:44

She was a truly special person who really did change the lives of many people going through cancer. She also proves that how hard you 'fight' cancer makes absolutely no difference to the outcome.

RIP Rachael xxx

Mrbatmun · 05/09/2018 11:53

One particularly vile story has an Insta mum sat in a bath naked filming herself crying.

Oh my god WHAT?

Mammysin · 05/09/2018 11:57

She hasn't passed away afaik. And to those ghouls who are instagramming their "grief" 🤬

Sharpandshineyteeth · 05/09/2018 11:57

Her blogs about cancer really struck a cord with me, having been diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer myself at 33.

At the end of one of her blogs she wrote, “its ok not to be ok”. I reminded myself of that so many times.

Mrbatmun · 05/09/2018 11:59

She passed away this morning Mammy

Satsumaeater · 05/09/2018 11:59

She has sadly passed away, her husband has tweeted about it. So sad. I hadn't heard of her until I read this thread and I read her blog on Monday. It sounds like she was a wonderful lady.

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 05/09/2018 12:00

She passed away this morning.

What an incredible woman x

Mrbatmun · 05/09/2018 12:00

Actually I should say she 'died' this morning, as she was all about not using euphemisms for death 👍

Mammysin · 05/09/2018 12:02

So sorry to hear that she died.

ginandnappies · 05/09/2018 12:03

So heartbreaking.

namechangefriday · 05/09/2018 12:14

I have the exact same diagnosis. Our timelines are almost the same.
I have 3 children. It’s impossible to explain how heartbreaking and devastating this is. And it’s scary and messy and painful.
I had hoped her days to live would be much longer , not less.
Certainly smacks me in the face today.

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