If you are no/low contact with family

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If you have chosen to limit your contact or go no contact with a family member how did you do it? Did you tell them and/or other family members?

I’m currently providing emotional support to a friend who is supporting a sick relative. One of the hardest things for her is that the sick relative has an adult child who my friend thinks should be doing the support but can’t be bothered.

I’m letting my friend rant because she needs the outlet but based on what I know of the family/history/situation I suspect It’s not can’t be bothered but a deliberate choice to stop or severely limit contact so I was wondering about the actual process of going no contact.

Why is friend so involved?
Does she know why they are low contact and who instigated it?
Has she spoken to child?

Friend is massively involved because “someone needs to support her” - theres a definite aspect of needing to be needed though. Currently all the relatives physical needs are met by others as she’s staying in a care home.
And apparently she spoke to the child and told her that she needed to step up and take more interest in her parent’s situation.
It’s difficult because everytime I ask friend how she is all she talks about is how her relative is, how she should have to do it but the child can’t be bothered etc etc