I need some me time and sleep!

[Meowstro]

Posting here for traffic. My 13 month old for the last week has been an utter nightmare to get to sleep, naps included. Tonight I've only just managed to get her to sleep after we had a battle with daytime napping and she only had one nap (albeit 2 hour) at 2.30pm. She has cried and screamed on and off all evening at every attempt to get her to sleep - bedtime book, rocking, feeding, walking, singing, patting, cbeebies bedtime story and bedtime song (desperation!).

I'm assuming she's in pain with her teeth, only just had 12 month jabs a few weeks ago too. We still cosleep as she screams from the moment she is put in a cot and has been like this continuously since she was born. She's still breastfed morning and evening and during the night if she ever wakes which was rare before but at the moment it seems to be every hour.

I'm so tired, I'm finding it difficult to get up for work on time which causes me rushing around in the morning, stressed out before the day has begun. I'm not getting any time for myself or with DH in the evenings and my home is just a cluttered mess at the moment because everything gets dropped.

I'm seriously considering CC which I never, ever wanted to do. Please offer me some advice or alternatives.

I assumed you were a single parent until the passing mention of a DH
Why isn’t he doing anything??

He helps a bit with dinner, washing up, bath time and will pitch in with bedtime if need be. If it gets too hard for DD to get to sleep with him and she's screaming he does have a habit of just giving her back to me. She doesn't settle well with either of us at the moment.
However, it is a bone of contention that DH doesn't do anything much without being asked because he says he doesn't generally see what I might need help with.

Anyone with tips would be welcomed to help save me another night of this.

Do you have a spare room? We have a newborn and sometimes split the night. I go to bed on my own in the spare room at 9pm and my husband keeps the baby occupied as long as possible (usually about 3 hours sometimes 4 if we get lucky!) then he brings her to me and he goes to sleep in our bedroom. I then have her for the next two feeds and then when he gets up in the morning he takes her downstairs with him and I have a couple of hours lie in.
We cant do that every day because sometimes he has to start work early.... but it seems to help if we do that on his days off and I do seem to scrape enough sleep together from that to feel a bit more human.

No tips I'm afraid but my daughter is about the same age and I am having the same issue with hard to settle/not sleeping much at night. I think they go through a big developmental leap at this age so we really just have to ride it out. I know that doesn't help but you have my sympathy!

Your DH needs to step up. Helping a bit is not enough, and frankly the word helping boils my piss.

He is equally a parent, doesn’t sound like an equal division of labour.