I have recently heard from my friend for the first time in several months. She is struggling with her mental health at the minute and needed some time to herself. She didn't reply to any of my messages that I sent during that time, but about a week before she did reply she met up with some mutual friends (on two occasions, that I know of). Although I have heard from her now, her messages have been sporadic and I sent one two days ago asking how she was feeling about going back to uni (she brought it up) and I haven't heard anything back. I have now seen on social media that she has gone back to her uni city today with the same mutual friends (they're visiting) and so she won't be back home until the end of October.
I wasn't aware of the visit today, so I didn't have the opportunity to go with them. I have done quite a lot to support my friend in the past and I would have liked to have seen her before she left. I last saw her about three months ago and it just would have been nice for her to make the effort to suggest meeting up with me. I feel like I'm always the one to make the effort in our friendship, which is a bit hurtful. I get that she's struggling (and have gone above and beyond to show I care) but it still makes me wonder if this is feasible long term.