My 17 year old dd took 11 anti-histamine 24+ hours before going to A&E to ask to be checked over because she wanted reassurance she hadn't harmed herself such was her sense of self preservation. CAMHS had shut her case 8 months previously refusing help. She had depression and anxiety and was cutting and taking small od's when CAMHS refused help. Therefore we got her a private consultant psychiatrist and she had not harmed for six months.
A&E did not call me for four hours and when they did had got her to agree to an acute admission with a 1:1 MH nurse to facilitate a CAMHS referral the following day. The paed told me it was a protocol and I had given my permission for the referral. I had not I was also told the CAMHS referral was essential and only accessible via a MASH referral. Further questioning revealed as dd was 17 she could be assessed in A&E by the MH liaison nurse on site. This happened and we went home. It took hours and when I told the sister we would be leaving if it wasn't sorted out quickly I was yelled at across the department that I was obstructing my child's care and causing a safeguarding issue. I had ensured my dd had excelkent care because CAMHS had been unwilling to provide anything when she was far worse. Later I discovered SS had been called at 4.15, an hour and three quarters earlier than I was contacted so my permission was not sought and also CAMHS could have been called without an SS referral.
We went home that night and CAMHS assessed the folliwing Tuesday, were poor and did not provide what they said they would provide.
I was called that week by someone from SS who introduced himself as Mr Something Foreign, who used my first name and when I asked him not to addressed me with my surname and no title. He could barely speak English abd asked if I wanted support. I asked what support was and he couldn't provide details. I was informed in writing the case was closed.
I was later informed the hospital also notified SS we left against medical advice - we didn't a full assessment was undertaken and that CAMHS had repirted I was over protective (this was after a formal complaint because they did not provide what they said they would).
I spoke to a senior manager at SS and I was told nothing met their thresholds but I was not informed of two referrals and the hosoital lied about the nature of the referral.
Does this nonsense happen often and what could be the impact if these referrals on my dd later on when/if she has children of her own.
We are functional parents who have provided a loving home and everything fir our DC. We are also professional people and were made to feel utterly marginalised. What hapoens to those who are misrepresented in this way and who can't advocate for themselves. Can I see the records in full?
P.S. dd is fully recovered because we coukd engage private care when CAMHS didn't want to know. She had a neuro developmental disability ADD which CAMHS would never have diagnosed.
Do you think the system is sometimes a parent blaming disgrace?