Statutory declaration of acknowledgement of parentage form

[SelinaMyers]

Hello,

I was wondering if anyone had any experience with the above document. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant. My ex has elected not to be part of mine or the baby’s life. I have tried to contact him twice during my pregnancy but have had no response.
I initially thought about inviting him down to register the baby when she arrives (I am moving back to be near my mother and sister) but I have just seen this form.
Am I right in thinking I could send it to him and then take it to the registry office with me?
Ideally I would like him to come meet his baby and eventually have a relationship but I’m just trying to minimise stress for everyone involved in those first few weeks.

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Accept his decision not to be involved. Should he step up in future he can be added in person at the registry office.

If you go without him he can be added later if he wants to be and you can still claim maintenance.
Give the baby your surname too it's easier.

If you put him on the birth certificate then he has parental rights. Which means 5 years down the line, when he's not seen the child for those 5 years he can rock up and demand access. He can do that when no named on the birth certificate, but it is much harder and easier for you to fight.

There are no negatives of him not being on the bc, but lots of negatives to him being on it.

I’ve been told I can’t claim from him if he is not on her BC.
I have always been planning to give the baby my surname- I just don’t want unknown on her BC.

April- I have accepted he does not want to be involved- I have only contacted him after he has text me but he has not replied to my responses.

You can claim cms without him being on the bc. I have done it myself.

I cannot state strongly enough that putting this man on the birth certificate is a bad idea.

There are no upsides for you or your daughter.

Also birth certificate does not say Unknown, that section is left blank.

And birth certificate is irrelevant when it comes to maintenance.

Your ex can ask for DNA test but he will have to pay unless of course it shows that he is not the father.

It definitely doesn't say unknown I think there might be a line through where it says father but youre much better off that way.

Like a PP says he can demand contact and its easier for him. You would also need his permission for certain things maybe even moving away.

I have accepted he does not want to be involved No, I don't think you have.

Yes, you CAN claim CMS without his name on the birth certificate.
Putting his name on it though, is a terrible idea. It would give him legal rights that may cause you problems for years.

By putting his name on the BC, you are granting him all the rights without any of the responsibilities. Do you WANT to tie yourself to a man who could potentially block your decisions as a mother?

Milestones and April How do you know she hasn’t accepted it? You have made upsetting assumptions. OP has said she’s accepted it. She has also explained that she believed she needed it for CM.

It definitely doesn't say unknown I think there might be a line through where it says father but youre much better off that way
No line, just left blank

Several mentions of contact and intention to contact suggests the op still has hopes. ...

You can definitely get cms without him on birth certificate.
Also the declaration needs to be signed by a judge/solicitor etc so not just a case of he fills it in and you take it.

How do you know she hasn’t accepted it?
I have tried to contact him twice...I initially thought about inviting him down...I could send it to him ...I would like him to come meet his baby...I’m just trying to minimise stress for everyone...
My ex has elected not to be part of mine or the baby’s life. seriously, I would leave it that way.