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I have nothing left by the end of the day.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 01/09/2018 13:31

Anyone else feel like this? I'm single, with a 1 and 3 yr old. I work part time and I have some animals to look after. I consider myself pretty lucky, I'm not run off my feet all the time. Yet by the time the dcs are in bed I'm done. I rarely do anything at all in the evenings. I don't even watch tv. Stbx wants to reconcile, I don't but even if I did I don't think I could as I am literally empty by 8pm. I don't want to talk, have company. Yet I don't want to go to bed . I cannot begin to imagine online dating or even going out in real life. I have nothing left to give. I receny had a week of a couple of people coming round, and a night out and I feel exhausted from it. Am I just worn out? Does anyone else feel like this?

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Sparrowlegs248 · 01/09/2018 13:53

Well I do sound miserable don't I? I'm not in general. I don't know if the constant companionship of the children is tiring me out. I do like time alone.

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LonelyOversharer · 01/09/2018 14:00

I feel for you I've been where you are, and lived in a fug of epic exhaustion for about 2 years. I really have no memories of dd3 being newborn.

Things do get better, the dc get older, your routine evens out. It took me just over 2 years before I felt able to date again. Been with my dp for 9 years now.

You don't sound miserable, you sound run down, run ragged, and like you need to vent a bit. Promise things get better x

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Sparrowlegs248 · 01/09/2018 14:10

Thank you. I think its been highlighted by having had company a few times. And having gone out once...... I think I can cope if I literally do nothing after they are in bed. Thanks for saying I don't sound miserable, I'm really not. I just feel exhausted.

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CottonSock · 01/09/2018 14:13

I felt the same until dd2 got to age 2. I was so tired that the thought of going out was a stress.

user1471553214 · 01/09/2018 14:15

It may be worth seeing gp, you may have low iron levels for example. Or you may just be knackered!

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Sparrowlegs248 · 01/09/2018 14:17

I am severely anaemic and have underactive thyroid but on medication for both. Maybe worth a check up though, thank you.

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HouseOfSix · 01/09/2018 14:19

I totally understand, and I have a partner and some help from family and things. I do kids/house stuff all day and once the older one (2.5) is in bed I do the dinner and more house stuff and then go to bed with the baby. By that time I am DONE. No down time, no relaxing evening chatting etc.

Recently I said to DH I was too scunnered to chat. He persisted in trying to talk to me and ask questions and I just burst into tears

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Sparrowlegs248 · 01/09/2018 14:21

That's exactly it!! I am too tired. I'm not interested. I have nothing to say. It's all gone. I've made more effort this last week or so and now I am bloody exhausted!

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user1471553214 · 01/09/2018 14:36

That can’t be helping Notta! I’ve been anemic and it just wipes you out! Look after yourself

mygrandchildrenrock · 01/09/2018 16:36

I remember that feeling well, even though it was years ago. I was a single parent to 3 DC and one evening one of the cats came to sit on my lap and it was too much, I had nothing more to give, not even to a poor cat!
I have recently celebrated my silver wedding anniversary to a chap I met a few years after the cat incident and had 2 more children with!
Get your health checked out, get enough sleep and don't worry, you won't feel like this forever!

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Sparrowlegs248 · 01/09/2018 16:49

I have a cat and I feel sorry for her. It always used to annoy me pre children, when people got rid of pets but I can half understand it now. I struggle to make time for her. When I have time she's not in. When she wakes me up in the night it annoys me as I already get woken numerous times by a breast obsessed child.

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JeanHarlow · 01/09/2018 16:54

You are doing the best you can. Go with how your body feels I have anaemia and it is hard so go easy on yourself.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 01/09/2018 21:05

Thanks Jean. I think when I posted I was meaning more of a mental emptyness but I do certainly feel physically shattered too.

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bluetrampolines · 01/09/2018 21:10

I'm the same op. Often dont even notice ive not put the tele on.

notsurewhatshappening · 01/09/2018 21:12

I feel very tired in the evenings and I don't do much. I go for a swim once a week but don't go out socially. I see friends during the day instead.

One friend of mine is a night owl...she asked me to go with her to a gig, we had a great time but when it finished at 11 she then wanted to go clubbing. .. I didn't get to bed until 2 am. I fell asleep in the back of her car. Neither of us were drinking- she is pregnant. I have no idea where she gets her energy from!

Some people need more downtime than others. It's nothing to be ashamed of. I'd much rather meet a friend for lunch than go out in the evening.

Rebecca36 · 01/09/2018 21:27

Oh bless you, I do get where you're coming from, remember well having periods of exhaustion and feeling pointless. My idea of Heaven was just being on my own and sleeping.

Doesn't last forever I can assure you.

HouseOfSix · 01/09/2018 22:30

OP one thing I have found useful is carving out a tiny bit of time for myself with a little ritual each night. I put the baby to bed and usually if it's not too late I'll watch an episode of Parks and Recreation on my phone (it's on Prime) last thing at night. It's 20 minutes long, it's lightweight and fun and it helps me just switch off and decompress a bit, I don't have to really concentrate. I cling on to it as 'me' time. Would something like that help? It could be anything really, a short story, a crossword, a podcast, whatever floats your boat. It's important to try to reclaim a little of the day for yourself.

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