Please tell me good things about being childless!

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Because I think I'm going to end up that way. Im entering my late 30s and just have this gut feeling it's never going to happen for me.

I'm in a relationship but we don't live together and he doesn't seem keen to have kids. I was pregnant in a previous relationship but that ended in miscarriage. I'm not great in relationships. I'm hard work, and difficult

But I have an interesting job, independence, friends and interests and hobbies but worry I'll one day regret not having children.

I feel like I need to decide whether I want them or not and then either take action to have them or just decide not to and move on.

So if I decide not to, what will be the upside?

I was the same. I decided quite early on (late 20’s) that I just don’t have whatever gene it is that gives maternal feelings and the desire for children. I’m over 60 now, I still don’t have it. I’d prefer to look at photos of puppies and kittens than friends’ grandchildren.

The advantages of making that decision early on were;
I could commit to a demanding career (hospital doctor) that would have been a real struggle if I’d had children. The sort of career that’s is your life really and has no place for compromise.
I was able to make financial commitments; mortgage etc without worrying what would happen if I had children
I didn’t need to spend my thirties desperately trying to find a father for my children.

Each to their own. It’s all worked out very happily for me.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Career, money, sleep, a social life, holidays, excitement. I have kids (and love them dearly) but these are the things I miss from my previous life. I feel like a certain zest for life has been knocked out of me and my DH since having kids. We used to be so excited about the future, now we’re just knackered....

I just had 1. I'm extremely glad I had her but I'm glad I didn't have more even though my hormones had me craving more babies.

Like orchard green I lack maternal feelings towards human children. Plenty towards dogs though. My dog has a great lifestyle because I don't have to worry about looking after kids too.

Also money, being able to have a career that involves travel, spontaneity, not having to worry about childcare, less domestic drudgery, sleep...

I'm 42 & childless so feel similar, like what is the point to life without husband & / or a child?

I have MH problems so going to have psychology treatment which will help me cope but if you dont have MH problems you could still try counselling.

I've got a job where I care for others but it's not a proper career.
I do have a rescue cat but she likes to sleep a lot during the day...
I go to the gym, see friends & family & try to keep busy but it's not easy...